My best friend took my boyfriend. Did i react wrong?

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Me and my best friend are like sisters. We love each other. She's really uptight and I'm laid back. She's kind of pissed at the world and I'm really happy. She likes sports I like art. We're perfect. So about a year ago, I fell in love with this guy who happened to be her best friend. She was super excited at first and told me over and over again that she was going to try and hook us up. I told her it was o.k, and she didn't have to do that but she insisted. So for the next 10 months or so, she let me think that she was putting in a good word for me, and or course i was flirting with him as well.

Finally, he asked me out. I was ecstatic but she seemed to hate me. Over the next week or so she was being REALLY mean to me. Finally , i confronted her. I simply asked her if she liked my boyfriend and she got really excited. She was clapping and saying "I've wanted to tell you for so long!". So i knew i couldn't continue my relationship with him, even though i really liked him.

So i dumped him, and the only thing i asked for in return was for her to tell him how she really felt, because I don't want to leave him hanging because he did nothing wrong to deserve me breaking up with him.

So its been 2 months now, and she still hasn't called him or talked to him and I'm beginning to think I forgave her too fast. Did i react wrong. I'd feel bad just bringing up this situation again.......

Answer 1

This sounds like what happened to me.

Me and my friend had both dated this one guy,her first,then me.We werent friends then,but we came to be.

So this guy we had dated turned into both of our best friend.

Me and her and him hung out almost everyday with my other girl friend.

Eventually I started to like him again,and then so did she.

We started fighting about him.

He told me he really liked me,and that he didnt care what this b***h said or did to him,he would always love me(yeah right).

So,she gets mad,starts cutting herself.

I get scared,shes my best friend and shes cutting.

She tells me that my other girlfriend turned her onto it.

i was like WHAT! because my friends are liek effin PREPS.

It turns out that me,my best friend,and my otehr girlfriend all liked the same guy.

And he decided I was what he wanted.

I felt really bad.

My two best girlfriends in the world were hurting themselves because I was going out with a boy.

I seriously thought about dumping him for it,or pretending we werent going out.

But it wouldnt work.

I just went through it,and eventually my friends realized they were being stupid over nothing.

I dumped the guy 2 weeks later.

he was an @ssh0le.

So,let your friend figure it out on her own.

Its not your fault she likes him.

and if he likes you,then you guys should go out.

Shes just going to have to deal with jealousy.

Answer 2

You didn't react wrong. Reacting wrong would be blowing up in her face about it. I  do think though however that she really isn't the best friend you thought she was...

Answer 3

Shame man, sounds like you got done over by your friend. Hate to break it to you but strong friendships survive the coming and goings of partners. I dont think she really wanted him. She just didnt want you to have him. Likes the dude but doesnt say anything after you broke up because she liked him? You obviosly a good friend, time to find out where her head is at. And if she really doesnt wnt him, you owe your ex an apology.

Answer 4

Hello,

Do NOT feel bad !!!!!

speak to her calmly and ask her whats on her mind..there might be nothing thats bothering her and shes taking it out on you.

you must be a really kind person to dump your boyfriend for her 2 go out with.

i think she takin advantage of you.

but firstly speak to your ex boyfiend and explain the stication 2 him... and ask 2 try things again weather your best friend likes it on not.

good luck

and i hope i helped :):):) x*x

Answer 5

I think that if she's not gonna go for it and you still really like him, you should get back together with him. You gave her plenty of chance.

Answer 6

Trust me, the best thing to do is to let it go, it was obvious they were gonna be together, because they were friends before. You know what they say, there is no such thing as friends of opposite s*x who are single, sooner or later, they hook up.

Answer 7

Ok so first she tries to hook you up with him but then when you are finally together she gets all jealous and makes you break up with him yet she doesn't do the one thing you asked her to do? Ok well yes I do think you reacted wrong I mean she's like a sister to you? Well sisters shut up if they like the same guy as you.

Answer 8

I think you did the right and noble thing

Answer 9

Hey,

I think that your bestfriend was or is jealous of you, because when you were not with your boyfriend she was all happy and nice to you but when you got with him she changed its like she realized that she wanted the guy because he was with you.

You know us girls always wanting what we cant have!

Now that you are not together she doesnt care anymore.

I think that you should talk to your best friend and tell her that you feel stupid and used somewhat because you broke up with the guy for nothing basically because she is not with him.

Honesty is the best policy.  

Answer 10

she should be happy for you and not causing you to split up.. if you like him that much then get back with him, she will move eventually and it shouldnt stop you being friends

Answer 11

I dont think you should have dumped him. She should have told you before you started going out with him then you wouldnt have to break his heart.  

Answer 12

yes u did.. u should call him & tell'm urself.. & remember dear girlfriends are never best friends!

Answer 13

I'm willing to bet you were spending a lot of time with your bf and no time with your friend and she got you to dump him so you too could hang out more.

Answer 14

Kiera , U are a veru good friend & a very good person , Maybe Ur friend is not so ( I am really sorry to say ) ; U have sacrificed your love for her ; Its really great ; No U didnt raected anything wrong , I suppose

Ur  a very good friend ,

Can U plz answer mine:

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Answer 15

You need to tell him the real reason you dumped him. You did it for her and now shes not even making a move! She's not holding up her end of the deal. I would talk to him tell him there was a mutual friend that liked him and that's why you broke it off, but that she was supposed to tell him how she felt and she hasn't, so now you feel you made a mistake. Maybe, first, you should tell you girlfriend that she has 2 weeks to make a move or you will.

Answer 16

I think based on what you wrote, you should have continued your relationship.  The person that you claim is your friend?  Well, to start with, you are opposites and maybe it's just that you balance each other that you think of her as friend.  That's cool if it works for you.  The problem is that she has a jealous heart, is a liar (worse than that a hypocrite), and mean spirited.  She may have hoped that the guy felt more for her than just "best friends" but he doesn't.   He likes you and I can see why.   Her mentally is that if she can't have him she doesn't want you to either.  She should have been honest with you and told you that she liked him and wanted to be more than just friends instead of leading you on to think that she would put in a good word for you.  Had she done that, based on your actions now, you would have not flirted with him and avoided this drama.  Explain the situation to him and that in breaking up with him you were trying to be a friend.  Whether you and him get back together or not, understand this, Ms. Thang is not a friend and you will have to consider your future trust level in her concerning anything.

Be Blessed

Answer 17

i feel sorry for that guy you dumped him for no reason thats harsh  

Answer 18

I don't think you should have given this boy up.  He asked YOU out, not her.  You should have continued dating him to see how it went and if you ended up not working out, then she has a right to try and put her moves on him.