My best friend wants me to have s*x with his wife so they can have a kid, should I?

Question

My best friend and his wife want to have children but he is unable to have s*x for reasons I wont discuss but they have asked me to be a donor and they do not have the money to pay for the services provided by a agency for impregnation.

Answer 1

It is up to you.

Make sure you get a good contract though so that you do not become financially responsible for the child.

Answer 2

No tell her to go to a sperm bank

Answer 3

If it's legit, you won't get to have s*x with her...  You will donate, ummm, a sample at the sperm bank...  The doctors will do the rest.

Answer 4

|Yes, go for it but ensure a couple of things:

- do some kind of contract to avoid any future financial responsibilities should their marriage break up.

- when you have intercourse, be a gentleman and then afterwards never talk about it unless they do.

- establish beforehand what kind of relationship or knowledge the child will have vis-a-vis you are the natural father.  If you are a good friend, you will obviously watch your child grow up.  How will that affect you, or will it?

Answer 5

shutup you're lying

Answer 6

Risky risky risky. There are just so many ways this could s***w things up. I don't think you should. Its just wrong. How he could want that is crazy. She will loose respect for him and your friendship will be effected. I have seen this happen before. Its a huge hue huge mess.

Answer 7

Tell your friend to adopt if they want a baby that bad. You shouldn't condemn yourself with adultery just so they can have a baby. HELLLLLLOOOOOO!

Answer 8

no cause it could ruin ur friendship it also could get very weird between u 3 so not a good idea

Answer 9

get a lawyer and work out details like financial responsibility, custody, etc. if surrogate moms can do it, why not a guy sperm surrogate?

Answer 10

well do u want to??? if you think u cando it just as a help and nothing else, i would say do it.

BUT if u dont think it would be a good idea than dont do it.  

Answer 11

That is a horrible idea.  I'm pretty sure you could use a dropper, put your s***n in it, and they could take care of the rest...

Answer 12

WOW. That is interesting. Would you be able to have a baby with someone but not claim him or her as your son? If so, then you would be so generous to help this couple out. I would not be able to do this. Best of luck!!!

Answer 13

NO!!! Tell them to find someone else to do it. How are you going to feel when your child is born and you won't be in thier life. He will be his/her father not you. They'll be the ones raising YOUR child. Just think about it. I wouldn't do it.

Answer 14

bad idea, don't think that you will accept that your child be raised by another dad.

don't do it.

Answer 15

So be a friend and bone his wife.  What's the big deal?  It might even be fun and they asked you!

Answer 16

i don't think its a good idea.!

Answer 17

How sincere are they about doing this. Have you discussed this with both of them present. If so, have them make an appointment with a lawyer to draw up a solid contract that holds you harmless of child support.

You would be doing a huge favor for a couple wanting a child. They value you and think you are a suitable candidate to help them in their situation. Look at is as honorable, and not sleezy as every other person who is commenting here looks at it.

Be sure to let him know that this in no way should change your friendship, and that if there is any reason that his friend feels it may, than you will not proceed with this favor.

Answer 18

horrible idea

sorry

Answer 19

all i can say is he must be your best friend. as you know this is not

like buying a car this is a life you are talking about so it must mean

something to you this will be your child you will be giving away. an also it cost money to have kids you know it's not that easy. anyway

it's not your fault your friends don't have the money.

Answer 20

That is really up to you. If you decide to I would make sure a letter is written up and notarized by all parties involved and each of you get an original so you do not become responsible for the child later on. You need to think of how long you have been friends and look at that one good. I hope they understand that it make take several tries before it is successful and she may have a miscarriage so you may need to try again.

Answer 21

That's not a favor....you'll end up paying for child support if the couple cannot deal with the fact you're the father.

Answer 22

You don't want to be "trapped".  In saying that, what happens if you want to have part of this person's life.  

I would approach this like a business deal...and visit a lawyer first!

Answer 23

That's a very bad idea for many, many reasons (legal ones, emotional ones, etc).  Tell them to save their money, or get a loan, and use a sperm bank.  

Answer 24

Is his wife hot?

Answer 25

Tell them that you cannot do this and that maybe they need to be talking to her gynecologist/Dr.

Answer 26

Geez.... why do I have to give my wife to other people?

It's an idiotic thing to do.

They don't have money for the services....?

But they want to have a KID......

Be realistic you moron..........