My best friends boyfriend is controlling her..?

Question

Ive known my best friend for 13 years and we've been really really close since, people used to say we were like joint from the hip lol, last year she met her first serious boyfriend. And since then everything has changed. First of all, everyone hates her boyfriend, he's so arrogant and stuck up and looks down on everyone and thinks he's god's gift when he ain't even that good looking. And his whole family is s****.. And since she met him nothings been the same with us, she turns me down almost all the time to be with him, she's turned stuck up like him and she has changed completely just to ''fit in'' around him and his family. She prefers him to anyone. We've fought over this sooo many times sometimes even gone days without talking, and before him we never argued at all! not even once. I understand she loves him, but surely she'd love me too, i stick by her cause i know she'll need me one day but i really feel awful about the way she treats me since him .

And when she does wanna hang out with me, he always starts an argument with her to make her feel like **** while with me, or all she does is talk about him or just acts like him when i hate it. She knows i hate him too.. I'd never ask her to choose though i just don't know what else there is to do!

Answer 1

Well no matter what, she wants her space to be with him so give it to her. Let them do their thing. You can talk to her and tell her that this is what you'll do. They will probably break up then she'll have time to become herself again and you can laugh together about what an *** he was and cry together about how she treated you like ****. She should buy you a present for this bs.

Answer 2

dont talk to her or hang out with her anymore, when she realizes whats shes missing in your friendship.. it might make her understand more how he is.. he makes you feel below him because he is stuck up and prob was spoiled as a child and thats why he acts like he does.. sounds like someone who if they dont get their way, when they want how they want it, makes a scene and everyone around them uncomfortable. personally i would stand up to him and really let him know how i feel.. if he knows the people around him are weak, then he will keep doing what he is doing, not only to her and you but to everyone..  

Answer 3

Well first of all...you have NO reason to hate him. You are being judgemental and it sounds like YOU are the stuck up one. Everyone has their outside attitude but it's not who they are on the inside so give him a break. He probably doesn't like you either because of the way you present yourself...but if you guys knew each other like your friend and him KNOW each other...you might actually like him. He is probably really sweet to her when they are alone. As for her ditching you all the time...it's completely normal...EVERYONE says they aren't going to be like that when THEY get a boyfriend...but it always does happen and it will probably happen when you get a boyfriend. He is knew and interesting to her and she doesn't wanna waste a second away from him...whereas she's known you practically her whole life and knows you're not going anywhere and she can always depend on you. If you want to keep her around...support her and wait it out while he becomes old news and she'll learn to make time for the both of you. If it is really killing you and you can't handle it...tell her that you know choosing is wrong but it's reality and you need her...if she can't chose who really matters then it's time to move on and leave HER in the dirt where she decided to leave you. It will be her own fault when their relationship is over and she no longer has YOUR shoulder to cry on.

Answer 4

Well just needa give her a break okay and talk to her...or just leave her..