My best friends dad is hitting on me!?

Question

ok well he started hitting on me about a month ago. i was at the deli. and i walked there since my car wasn't working and the deli was a 10 minute walk from my house... so anyway it started to thunder then her dad happened to be at the starbucks next to the deli. he saw that i was running home in the poring rain and it was thundering like crazy, so he said he'll drive me home. so i said ok. in the car he was saying how beautiful i was a how beautiful eyes i had, and he was rubbing my knee and he was like rubbing my thigh... and his hand kept getting closer to my... you know. then i pushed it away. then he started putting his hand on my shoulders. then i haven't seen him for a month and a half and when i was at my friends house, he happened to stop by and he said "Oh m Saleana i haven't seen you in so long" then he hugged me and when he was hugging me he was rubbing my butt... and i have no clue how my friend didn't notice that. and now hes starting to call me (on my house phone) and one day he stopped by my house and we were on the couch together and he was getting really close to me and he was like touching my hair and it looked like he was trying to touch my b***s. and he would rub my thighs and get really close to my... you know what. and when i was bending down he was rubbing my butt. and i think when i was in the bathroom he went through my dresser because the next day i noticed i was missing a pair of pantied and a bra. i tried to tell my friend... but i don't want her to think her dads a 50 year old s*x hungry perv. or something like that. what should i do? its really starting to creep me out and i feel uncomfortable around him!

Answer 1

ew thats just gross you should be careful because he could be a rapist! tell your best friend! and if she doesn't believe you then you have to drop her because i dont think a friendship is worth getting sexually abused. dont ignore this or try to tolerate this! tell him to stop or your going to tell his daughter!

Answer 2

1 Dont get in his car.

#2 Dont take his calls if he calls for you.

#3 Dont be on the couch together.

#4 If he hugs you and rubs your butt, state loudly for everyone to hear, " Oh, my Gosh, get your hands off my butt !"

#5 you should feel uncomfortable because this man doesnt have any boundries.  Do NOT let yourself be alone with him at all. He is sick and I hate to say it, but may force himself on you !

He is continuing because you havent made a stink yet !  Tell him, the next time he touches you, you will call the police and have arrested for sexual assault.  This guy needs a wakeup call.  It makes me wonder if you are the first girl he has done this to...

Answer 3

Umm, no. Just no. There is just so much wrong with you going through. First of all, if you are under 18 (it doesn't sound like you are or I expect your parents would be all over this with the phones calls and showing up, and if you are then you have some absent parents), Tell the person you most trust in the world (unless it's your friend, I'll tell you why in a min.) or call the cops or if you don't not feel comfortable with that try looking up your local SPARCC chapter, they will help you.

If you are over 18 there are some things you need to understand, you have already being sexually assaulted, I'm sorry if that's blunt but he has touched you in places that he had absolutely no right to and that is a sexual assault. You need to come to terms with that in your own way. Because he is a friends father, he is in a sense a authority figure and his abusing that power is abhorrent. You are not leading this man, you are not responsible for his behavior, it's not your fault if you arouse him, he IS a 50 year old s*x hungry perv.. This man should never be allowed into your home and you should most certainly NOT confront him about is behavior yourself. I say this because he could in all likely hood- A. rape you or B. he could use his position as an authority figure to manipulating you into believing you were imagining it. I’m not trying to say you are weak minded or easily manipulated, but I know that there are complex issues here an often it's easier to allow yourself to believe a lie then deal with the feelings of violation and misplaced guilt. You need to call SPARCC and go to the cops, let them help you.

DO NOT GO TO YOUR FRIEND FIRST. Why? Because you should know that if he feels comfortable enough to grope your *** in front of his daughter, you are most likely not his only victim. Odds are your friend is also being forced into sexual relationship with her father. If you go to your friend first it will be a disaster. I can't tell you how long the relationship has been going on or the extent of the abuse, but I can tell you that if there is a history of sexual abuse between father and daughter, that she is suffering under a great weight of misplaced guilt, fear and denial. It's possible she's even been so damaged that she could be jealous that her father would take an interest in you.

I know this is all very complicated and difficult to accept but I am telling you the facts that are deductible from the info you have given. I know that you are hoping that this will all go away, but it wont, it will only escalate. I can sympathize with your desire to preserve your friendship, but you aren't doing yourself, or your friend for that matter, any favors. It will go one of two ways your friend will be understanding and supportive, or she will be angry, embarrassed, and defensive. If she is the former, great your friendship will be stronger for it. If she is the latter, tell her that you love her, are not trying to hurt her and that you are there for her when she's ready to talk. Good luck and please find the courage to go to the  authorities. Your instincts in these things are rarely wrong. It's time to rob this b*****d of his power over you and most likely your friend.

Answer 4

Tell your parents, a teacher, the preacher, police somebody...today!!!! right now!!!!!. Don't' go over to your friends house where he is, avoid him at all cost. Don't let him back in your house.  If he comes to the door again don't answer it and call the police.  He needs to be reported because eventually he will try something more drastic if he thinks he can get away with it.  The situation might get more than uncomfortable.

stay safe

    

Answer 5

First of all, tell your best friend about this situation.  If it is not working, tell the police of sexual harassement.

Answer 6

tell ur parents he should never touch u or if ur scared to tell ur parents tell a teacher at skl or an adult ur close to

Answer 7

well if you dont want any bad tension between you & your friend just try to ignore & avoid him as much as you can that is the best way! If he comes around go somewere else dont accept things from him such as rides,or anything that you & him could be alone with eachother

i hope this helps

Answer 8

Tell your best friend. Tell a parent, or both, or an aunt or uncle, someone you can trust because if you don't, he could rape you or something of that sort. Stay as far away from his as possible, and when you see him, stick with your friends and act as if you aren't interested in him. If he ever touches you like that again...scream. Its simple. It will let other people know you are being harassed and it'll have the words "BACK OFF" all over it.

XoXo,

- <3

Answer 9

Stay away from him.

Stop letting him go INTO your house. For goodness sake he could rape you.

Next time your best friend invites you to her house, tell her you'd rather not for certain reasons and suggest she comes to your house instead.

Tell a trust adult, he could go to jail for what hes doing. Please stay away from him and keep him away from you.

You should tell your best friend, she would understand whats going on and whats happening if she was really your friend.

Answer 10

You need to tell omeone about this! Like your parents or police and your friend. Girls get rapped. They get abused and hurt. Something needs to be done about it. This is a dangerous and serious and disgusting situation. Hun i would know. I have been abused when i was little. I now live in a foster home. I was so young back then i diddnt know what the guys were doing to me wasnt normal. Please help yourselfe and get help.

Answer 11

how old are you? 18+?

tell your mom. tell your friend.

tell him you are flattered but just not interested.