My bestfriend and her new boyfriend.

Question

My bestfriend and i have been bestfriends 9 years.and in the past she's had many boyfriends.But never like this one she got recently. I feel like shes always blowing me off to do or go somewhere with him.I haven't even talked to her in like 2 weeks! We used to talk like everyday! Am i over-reacting?What do i do in a situation like this?

Answer 1

I think I understand how you feel, and what you must be going through. I imagine you feel hurt that she's blowing you off, but also guilty for not being happy for her.

Dont worry. First, you should try and find some time for just you and her. Call her when you know she's not busy, and ask to hang out.  If she asks if her new boyfriend can come too, tell her you want some just you and her time, and if thats not possible right now, tell her to let you know when the two of you can hang out, just the two of you.

Once you get together with her, try not to ambush her.

Ask her how her and her boyfriend are doing? Then, gently tell her how you feel. Explain that your sure shes not doing it on purpose, but you feel blown off a lot, and you miss her companionship. Tell her you would really like to hang out more often.

If this doesnt work, although its hard, try and find someone else to hang out with, until your best friend realizes her mistake. If she doesnt, then spending time with someone who wont make time for you isnt fair.

Hope things go well for you!

And dont worry, your not overreacting, its easy to feel hurt and angry in a situation like this.

:)

Answer 2

tell her not to lose sight of all the important people in her life.  Because although she still may spend less time with you she should know that you are an important person in her life and she shouldnt ignore you.  Try to reestablish the lines of connection.

Answer 3

you can do two things:

take the high road: hang out with other people and just try and forget about her until she wonders why you are not hanging with her...

also, look at it from her point of view...a new guy! why wouldnt she want to spend time with him. but its not nice for her to completely ignore you...

or when the boyfriend dumps her, (and you know he will soon if theyre are spending all that time together...he will get tired of her) and when she comes crying back to you, give her no sympathy. its being a bad friend, but she will be in your shoes...

you're not overreacting... you just miss your best friend. don't worry...just keep busy.

x

Answer 4

find new friend