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My bf admited he thinks he an alcoholic?

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ok weve had a big chat to night,and he admited he thinks hes an alcoholic .i kind of suspected it but he was really upset and said this is the first time hes admited to himself and im the only 1 who nos.he says its been worrying him for a year(we have been together 2 n half years)hes 23 and his dad and uncle are both alocholics.he has agreat job makes good money and is a pleasent guy.when he drinks usually at weekends he passes out,he says he doesnt no when to stop and when he has 1 drink he cant stop.he has even drove his van home drunk after an arguement and has made arangements with me and passed out so he couldnt even answer his phone.he gave it up for 6 weeks and then his dad left his mum and he went back on it! so what i really need at this moment in time is where to go from here?e says he wants to see sum1 but not a phycologist mabbae the aa?please dont tell me to split with him cause im not going to hes stood by me nhard times and im willng to go through the motions.please help thanks xxxx

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  1. And you don't have to drink at all to be an alcoholic either ....

    How very brave of your boyfriend, it's a very hard thing to do, admit that you have such a problem. He's halfway there, believe it or not ....

    Now, he needs to get to some kind of support group. The AA is a good start, because there is a sponsor/buddy system in place, and it would be good for him to realise that he isn't alone in this problem.

    And good for you for wanting to help him.  


  2. my bf said hes an alcoholic. oddly enough i drink far more than he does in one go, but he says he needs a couple every night? i dried him out once but after a week not drinking he got really snippy and pissy all the time tho it was out of his system by then he was just a bit of an s.o.b. then when he drank again he was his usually friendly self, very odd. er, just dont drink with him and let him talk to you when he feels like drinking. ive only been to an aa type meeting for eating disorders, it didnt help in my case, oh well.  

  3. AA, is a very good start.. and you can even attend the meetings with him and support him.. he has to want to stop though..  

  4. I definately won't suggest that you leave him.  I think that you need to get him into a support group.  and then get your self some help on how to help and support him.

  5. I think standing by him is the best choice, not only because he has done the same for you, but because he really needs someone he can count on right now. Right now you need to show him all the love and support possible. The AA is a good idea that might help him and his problem. It's a better enviorment for him to share his story and hear the story of tohers that share the same problem. Good Luck for the both of you [:

  6. Admitting he's an alcoholic is the first step in AA. Now he needs to go to an AA meeting, Maybe a 12 step meeting at first.Then find a sponsor so he has someone to call when he feels like drinking. You may want to go to meetings with him at first, Till he feels comfortable by himself. Then, You need to go to Allanon meetings so you can get the tools you need to except that you, Can't cure it. You didn't cause it. and you cant control it. then you can help him. No one has to go it alone so i suggest that he gets a sponsor to help him through the tough times ahead.

  7. help him to fnd a aa meeting place and make sure that you wont  leave hes side, make sure he knows that too, this is a hard time and he needs you more then ever.

    dont go telling everyone he doesnt need that its greatthat he trusts you enough to tell you tha

    good luck

  8. Get your bf into AA.  Someone will sponsor him and help him.  He will ahve to stick with it regardless of different situations (ie excuses).

    Get yourself into ALANON.  This will help you.

    If your FB cant manage AA, dump him.  His drinking will only get worse.

  9. This sort of behavour is standard in Australia,Driveing home drunk from the pub friday night after work.Why would you stop A one drink like everyone says you have one its all over you get the taste and its on.I bet your BF far from an alcoholic?dDo you even know what an alco is?do some home work.

    THATS THE PROBLEM WITH YANKS THEY GET DRUNK ONCE,AND THEN SIGN INTO REHAB.CATS!!!

  10. 1. He must stop drinking right now and never ever drink again.

    2. He must immediately contact AA, or other support group, because he will need all the help he can get.

    3. There is no point in going through the motions. A disease like alcoholism requires total commitment to recovery, on the part of the patient and all those around him.

    4. Very few relationships survive alcohol addiction. If you can't be there for the long haul, get out now, and save yourself and your boyfriend a shipload of misery.

  11. The first step is admitting it to yourself - the second is admitting it to the ones you love.

    Be there for him, and try to get him signed on a programme - but only when he is ready.  If you push him too early you can cause more damage.  But your doc can help him get on a programme.  (if in england the nhs have a few good ones)

    Continue to be there for him - and be strong - remember hes made the first steps and the hardest ones to admit.  

    Good luck

    xx


  12. Try AA for him really encourage him to attend...AA doesn't always work so if it doesn't seem to help take it a step further with a rehab for early stage alcoholics. But you need to be with him and try to make other plans with him then to go party and don't keep nagging him that will make it harder. Good Luck!

  13. search yellow pages for support groups. AA is definatly a good place to start.

  14. Its good that he admits that he may have a problem. Maybe by seeing someone he means that he needs someone to talk to. I think you guys should stay together

  15. Definitely have him try AA (alcoholics anonymous).  Admitting he has a problem is a big step - you are right to support him.  Good luck with it!!

  16. It doesn't matter what the addiction is.  It could be addicted to an Eating Disorder, addicted to drugs, alcohol... the possibilities are endless.  But remember, with any addiction, the person abusing doesn't know when to stop.  They are so into their addiction and don't recognize when it's a problem.  But they have to be the one to want to get help.  It's a mental disorder that takes time, motivation and determination to want to get better.  You can tell him all you want how much you see it being a problem, etc... but he's the one in the drivers seat.  With family and support around him, he may come to the realization that his addiction is out of control.  If he doesn't see it as a problem now, let it be, but don't ignore him.

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  18. AA is a good place to start. When alcoholics get that first drink inside them, they just can't stop because a physical allergy creates a craving, and they just want more and more.

    At AA he will meet others who have had very similar experiences, and stopping drinking will enrich his life.

  19. thort an alci was someone that needed a drink everyday it sounds like he's a binge drinker i suppose he could end up one so go get it sorted
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