My bf and i eloped and we haven't told anyone that we got married

Question

My boyfriend wanted us to be married before i gave birth and we are having a big church wedding dec 12 should we not tell anyone cause this was just because i am pregnant and i am going to have the baby before the wedding he wanted to make an honest woman out of me .

Answer 1

I don't know how big your wedding is going to be but I would just tell your immediate family and not worry about everyone else. It;s no one else;s business and could make people feel your big wedding is not as significant.

Answer 2

If you tell people it will be a letdown for them, if you don't you have to live with the lie that the December ceremony was just bogus pomp.  Tell them, but then rephrase the invites so it is clear it is a recreation of your exchange of vows.  That is, if you think you'll still be together by then.

Answer 3

tell everyone

Answer 4

I think that was wonderful of your boyfriend.

Who said you cannot take your marriage vows again.

Have the church wedding.

Congratulations on your marriage and the little one to come.

Answer 5

Yeah you should tell them for honesty's sake.  And if having a baby outside of marriage is so upsetting, why did you have s*x outside of marriage?  Don't religions have an issue with that too?

Answer 6

honest woman out of you? an honest woman invites her family and friends to her wedding. Think twice.

Answer 7

you must tell people, i mean you can't hide something at the last minute  

Answer 8

You are already an honest woman! Congratulations!

Answer 9

People will know when you give birth. I don't think you Have to tell anyone on purpose, but if someone asks then just tell them yeah I'm pregnant. If you don't want people to know, you don't have to announce it to the world. But just be honest when people deliberately ask.

Congratulations!

Answer 10

Is your question, "Should I tell people I know?" If that's the case, then you should tell at least two people you know... as witnesses or you have to pay a lot of money for the chapel to provide you a witness or two depending on the state, I think.

I know, it's a rip-off because the whole point is to get married without anyone knowing about it so you can surprise everybody.  

Answer 11

Maybe after the birth of the baby, you can still have something for the family and friends.

Answer 12

okay, well do you actually love him? I think getting married just because your pregnant is not a wise idea. But if you love him go for it and tell everyone.  

Answer 13

I would let people know that you did this for the sake of the baby and you still are planning a big wedding - you have a right to it

Answer 14

Dear Diary....

Today I went on yahoo answers and told the whole world that me and my bf eloped!! I'm so excited but kind of anxious about it too because I'm pregnant and blah blah blah blah blah...

......... -_-;

Answer 15

its up to you, your getting married anyways so it doesn't really matter either way they know your getting married. i think its good that he wanted to make an honest woman out of you, it shows that he really care about you. =)  

Answer 16

an honest woman...mkay...

Answer 17

Congrats!!! Don't sweat it your family and friends shouldn't be mad just say you didn't want your child out of wedlock

Answer 18

You just told the entire world...

Answer 19

Your choice. It shouldn't really matter to the guests involved. They still get to see the ceremony and be there for you.

Answer 20

o wow!

Well that can put allot of guilt on a girl and then the emotions of having a baby!

Can you take it?

Answer 21

well know everyone who looks at this will know. And I don't see what the question is here.  

Answer 22

That line of thought is soooo outdated.  We don't live in that kind of world anymore.  You did not have to marry him just because you are pregnant.  

Answer 23

Tell anyone. Remember it's not what people think of you, it's what you think of yourself.

Answer 24

People will ready this will know. People who will see you baby in your arms at your wedding will know. Sooner or later everyone will know. So you can tell them now or wait for your wedding. Either way, people will know.

Answer 25

Like the first person said..YOU just TOLD the entire world.

Answer 26

No one needs to know you were pregnant before you got married so just keep it on the DL.!

Answer 27

Congrats! Good for you for getting married already!

Just cancel the other wedding plans - you have more important things to concentrate on! Announce that you are already married, and are getting on with planning to raise your family.

Good luck!

Answer 28

Wow, due tomorow, only broke up with your ex a few weeks ago, secretly married so you'll be an honest woman when the baby is born but everyone ese will think you're an unwed mother......smart, Cupcake...uh by the way, who the babydaddy? Do you even know?

I smell.......drama in the air......

Answer 29

if you are going to be spending your lives together then you need to start with a bit of honesty.  tell your families that you got married so your baby wouldn't be born out of wedlock.  h**l you've gotta cancel the big wedding soon or someone will be out of pocket.  whats up with breaking up with your exes a few weeks ago though???  is the baby your new husbands or is it your exes?  married life shouldn't be started with a drama... so get the drama sorted and get on with your lives.

Answer 30

Well Technically you cant get married agian. You can re-new your vows but you cant marry agian, so yo umight want to think about that. Also you should tell your family, sit them down and tell them why you did what you did. If you dont it may upset your closer family more then you thought. Hope I helped. Good Luck on Labor and Delivery :)

Answer 31

Now just call home and let the cats out of the bag