My bf and i have been fighting lately. he knew that i was going to the er sat to check on our pregnancy.?

Question

he offered to come but said hed have to bring his 3 year old daughter. i didnt think that was a good place for her and told him not to bother. he didnt even call to check on how things were... its been a day. what should i do about this? it really hurts and makes me believe he doesnt care.

does him being mad at me give him the right to be selfish and inconsiderate?

Answer 1

Yea, I'm confused, are you having problems with your pregnancy? Why would you go to the ER for checking it?

Either way~ are you trying to forget about his daughter? Trying to exclude her from things? What do parents do that have children together? Leave them alone at home while they go to check ups and stuff? Theres no reason she couldn't have came along.

That doesn't make HIM selfish and inconsiderate... that actually makes YOU selfish and inconsiderate. Yes you should've brought her. She was spending time with her father. Like I said before. What about parents that have the kids together? They just pawn their kids off so they don't have to take them with to go places(reguardless of where)?

I think you're over reacting and its dumb that you started a fight over this... poor little girl and baby.

I can see how this will turn out. You'll get mad everytime your boyfriend wants to do something with his daughter and not play with the new baby. That should be good...

Answer 2

Hi this is a difficult situtation as, I think my hubby would of been hurt if he had a daughter and if he had to bring her for any reason and I told him not to bother him coming because of his daughter then I think my hubby would of been hurt, Im sure your hubby/partner wont want to feel like he is leaving his daughter out, even if it isnt the sort of place a child should be, but still there could of been a better way for you to say it than ''dont bother coming' basically if he was going to bring his daughtner now you are fuming because he didnt come when you told him not to, you cannot have it both ways sometimes, Ive learnt that with my hubby.

I can understand how you think he doesnt care but he doesnt know probably how to take you or how to react to you, you now think he is being selfish and inconsiderate but you told him not to come so he didnt, and you probably will be mad at him when he calls so he isnt going too.

Just forget about what has happened now and tell your partner is doesnt matter about the other day but you would like him to come to the other appointments you have, and you didnt mean to upset him about not bringing his daughtner. Then start again pregnancy should be a happy time not one to fall out over little things however they seem to be so angrivating whilst you are pregnant, trust me I know.

I went mad because my hubby didnt text me to see how I did at the midwifes as he works he cannot go with me to all appointments, and as I had a bad time there as I was worried because she told me something about our baby lieing funny, but as soon as my hubby got in from work he goes '' Did you get my text'' I thought he must of been worried because I hadnt text him back about out baby because I didnt hear my phone go off. But no I read the text and it wasnt about how I did at the midwifes or how baby was it was about golf with his mates. so I was a but peeved of about that but didnt say anything as I cannot be bothered argueing and upsetting myself which isnt good for the our baby.

Answer 3

Why are you going to the ER to check on your pregnancy?  Is it because you and your boyfriend are both on welfare?  What are you thinking?  He's a loser with no job AND a three year old daughter.  Why should he call to check on you, when he's busy knocking off a piece from his baby's momma?

How selfish and inconsiderate of both of you.  Bringing a child into this sad world, when you can't even take care of yourselves.

Answer 4

It sounds like you need to communicate better with him.  From what you said, it sounds like you rejected his daughter.  That's the way I would take it and I would be mad.  It sounds more like you are selfish and inconsiderate.

Both of you should be more considerate of the children you bring into this world and stop thinking the world revolves around you.  If you do not put your children first you will just perpetuate your circumstance and wonder why things don't work out.