My bf broke up with me, i can't cry?

Question

just tonight my bf broke up with me. i wasn't the best girlfriend to him and i wish i could have been the girl he thought i was. For some reason i can't cry, i get teary eyed, but not the whole emotional sobbing cry. it should just be natural, but nothing's happening. i loved him so very much and don't want to break up. i noticed that it took some time for me to cry when my grandpa died. i didn't even cry at the funeral, it took a few days. is it because i'm in shock? i'm starting to question if i did love him, but at the same time i still do. what's wrong with me? i want to cry but nothing happens? pls help

Answer 1

Your getting older. Now, your all strong and it's hard for you to cry because

you probably dealt with something worse. You know?

There's a saying that if you go in a sauna in a hot day, when you come out it feels much cooler. So, your in the sauna, and the break up's probably a tiny bit hotter than the sauna.

Well, I mean your probably not a kid, because you have a bf right?

Yea, so you don't cry a lot like a kid.

Answer 2

your like me u don't want hurt so u keep inside . u promise ur self u won't hurt. tell ur self it okay to hurt. when  hurt the goodness is coming. talk ur ex tell him what going on in ur life tell him u will chane give, u time

Answer 3

There have been times where I should have cried, but I didn't. Some people have their own way of grieving.

Answer 4

I am almost the same as you - finding it hard to cry.

Most times I wanted to cry, but no tears come down from my eyes.

Only when I really want to give in - which I can't much tell when.

Anyways, nothing's wrong with you. It's just that you are strong-willed - or you're not used to crying, or even you don't know yourself at all yet.

Don't force yourself. Just practice to be more sensitive to the events, if you really want to cry and shout all the feelings you hide inside of you. :)

Answer 5

that happened to me with my grandma who i loved very much i heard she died and i went to a party, but then like a couple of days later i smelled something that she used to cook and i starting balling, everybody expresses emotions in different ways so dont stress it, just think about how you feel now what you should feel or should do physically. there is nothing wrong with you.

Answer 6

You are in the state of shock that he broke up with you.

You did not expect you relationship with him to end.   If you were not the best girlfriend to him, then he tolerated being your boyfriend because he loved you. He couldn't handle in an unhealthy relationship.

I was with my last girlfriend for nine months. During my relationship with her, she lied to me often about things.  She did messed up things when I was not with her such as keeping in contact with her ex boyfriend before me by talking to him on the phone and communicating with him through myspace. She also went on a personals site to find another boyfriend. She also criticized me a lot. She had zero confidence in me to do things. She made cruel jokes

to me and yelled at me a lot, most of the time over small things.

She was embarassed to talk about me to her friends, her coworkers and her family. She never really wanted me to meet her family. She just wanted me to be her date to her brother's wedding so she would not be the only person at her brother's wedding without a date (her brother's wedding was last month). For the nine months that I was with her, she never said, "I love you." She dumped me through text messages. She used me until she found another boyfriend that she would want to marry and have kids with. She wants to get married but she cannot picture herself in a long-term relationship with any guy.

She wants to have kids but she gets annoyed often by babies and little kids. She also has put down her dog and cat by calling them "Stupid, "Retarded," and "Dumb." She has yelled at her dog a lot. Once I told her that her dog was cute and she said, "That is all my dog is good for," My ex girlfriend clearly has issues that went beyond the relationship that I had with her. I knew that she was messed up to me BUT I tolerated how she was towards me because I loved her and wanted to make the relationship work. I dumped her three of four times but she did not want me to break up with her. When our relationship finally ended, she did not care that she hurt me. I was the only funny and sweet boyfriend she ever had (she told me all about her other boyfriends and guys she went on dates with) but she never could develop deep feelings for me. She never appreciated me and the things I did for her. Weeks after dumping me, she went back to one of the personal sites in which i found out she had a profile on when I was her boyfriend and created a profile on another personals site. I cried when she ended our relationship and my heart was beating fast. It takes a cetain unfortunate incident to make somebody not cry right away or cry a lot. Like you, I did not cry at my grandfather's funeral. I did not even cry when my aunt died a few years ago (I was not close with her.)  My ex girlfriend was the second person I was probably EVER close to in my life. Nothing is wrong with you.

Not everybody cries or deals with tragedy the same.

I hope that this helps and take care.