My bf cant stop trying it on with other girls

Question

we've been together for 7 years now n have a daughter, but for as long as i can remember he cant seem to stop trying it on with other girls online, he says its just flirting, but im sure sending videos n stuff to people n getting them back is far more than flirting, he also talks about meeting them with them, but claims he doesnt mean it. i dont want to split up with him and he doesnt do it all the time, what can i do to make him see that it isnt acceptable?

Answer 1

i kinda had this problem with my now husband..

I told him it hurt my feelings.. and that it made me worry i wasn't pretty enough.. or not quite good enough to keep him satisifed..

i also added.. the girl is getting enjoyment out of it as well.. and that it wasn't right at all..

he understood...  

Answer 2

well seeing that you have daughter i think that you need to sit him down and tell him you dont lik it and tell him that he needs to take responsibility and if that doesnt work dump him.

Answer 3

My husband used to do that. I made him cancel the internet if he wanted to be with me. Well we didn't have it for awhile and i told him that we would try it again. It shouldn;t be a problem if he loves u if not maybe it is time to move on. U don't need that stress trust me

Answer 4

ur a mug. get rid of him.

"what can i do to make him see that it isnt acceptable?" it IS ACCEPTABLE, you are accepting it. you should have ditched him years ago. and used contraception. just get rid of him now.  

Answer 5

start ****ing his best friend.  If he's to busy watching what you're doing behind his back, he won't have time to keep doing stuff behind yours.

Answer 6

Tell him you don't like it and can't live with it and if he can't accept that as an acceptable answer to why he shouldn't do it, then leave him.

Answer 7

this is the kind of guy that you shouldn't be with. you need to let him go because he is the type that will cheat on you. He talks to girls online, sends videos, and wants to meet them but he claims that he doesn't mean it and it is just flirting??!?!?! first of all, he has a girlfriend and a baby...he shouldn't flirt with girls! you deserve better. you don't need to be with someone that doesn't give you the amount of attention you deserve and flirts with girls online. GOOD LUCK! :)

Answer 8

Tell him that it hurts you that he's going this with another girls.

And that he's not gonna stop and that it will hurt you're daughter when she grows up.

Tell him you don't know what he wants you to do to make him stop.

And just tel him the truth about how you feel.  

Answer 9

Oink oink!  If you like bacon you're in luck, this guy is a pig!  It's obvious he doesn't respect you and possibly women in general.  How much class does this guy have if he's jerking other women around?...just for fun..HA!

Answer 10

Well, in 7 years, he's never made a commitment to you -- to stay with you, to be honest, to be faithful -- those commitments are made in marriage. He owes you nothing, you've given him everything without requiring him to commit to you.  Do you think having a child will keep him around?  He's already proven that it won't.  Leave him, and stay single and focus on raising your child until she is 18 and out.  You are all your daughter has.  Your bf just keeps you around for s*x -- you know it.  He goes and cheats on you and knows you'll stick around no matter what -- you have for 7 years!  Respect yourself.  You deserve better.  So does your daughter.  You can't change him, don't waste any more of your life pretending that you can.

Answer 11

I suggest get counseling then if that don't work seek custody of your daughter and kick him to the curb. Obviously he's doing more than flirting and if your that naive then you got issues too. I also think if you suspect him cheating then hire a private eye to tail him to find out for sure. The fact is if you keep letting him get away with it your daughter will eventually think it's o.k. too when she is older. Deal with it before it becomes to late to turn back.

Answer 12

2 wrongs don't make a right, however ask him how he would feel if you did the same as him. If he is honest he would not like it.

You 2 have a child to consider so these games should stop. Just tell him, the time he is spending online should be time spent with his child and yourself, he is wasting valuable family time that he cannot get back.

Try and rationally talk about it. Ask yourself what you believe in your heart of hearts. Ask him how he feels hurting you like this and try to take it one step at a time.

Good luck

Answer 13

Whether you share a child, he is not commited to you.  You need to take care of the child first.  Do you want her to grow up and see how a man takes care of her mom and follow in your footsteps?  Good luck.  I think you should put the best interest of the child first.

Answer 14

try:

-destroying your rooter

-destroying him

-destroying them

it's a dirty job but someone's gotta do it...

Answer 15

People do this stuff when there's something missing in their relationships. Maybe he likes the attention, his ego needs a boost. He may be feeling insecure. He could be bored, or sick of the same-old-same-old (not bored of you, but life in general). Maybe he likes the danger of getting caught, needing more adventure and unpredictability in your lives. Maybe you guys need to talk about what he needs in your relationship and what you can do TOGETHER to get him off the computer. Join a volleyball team or get a weekend hobby.

Answer 16

you should call i bluff and tell him its over and u explain why u dont want him, then he'll probably see the errors of his way.  if he doesnt then you seriously need to get rid, as he doesnt appreciate you and u deserve better.

Answer 17

Okay... this is where I get mad. "JUST FLIRTING" ?! Oh lord. Well I can't see anyone knocking some sense into this guy. Slowly drift from him. Seriously, yes it will be hard considering you have a daughter but honestly can you see yourself 10 years from now suffering just because of your daughter when by then she will probably have accepted it?

Good luck sweetheart

Answer 18

ok what is he teaching your daughter! and what are you teaching her by not demanding respect! my husband knows not to try my person like this or he'll be sorry!

you have a child with him and you already let him get away with it so what done is done but now you need to correct it and stand your ground and be consistent with it! DEMAND RESPECT and tell him to STOP and if he cant give it to you than he needs to take his things and leave making sure he picks up his daughter on the weekends and leaves a check behind when he goes because your daughter needs him not you!

VALUE YOURSELF! one mans trash is another mans treasure! if he wont treat you right someone else will!  

Answer 19

If you are so stupid you can't see the need to leave then you deserve whatever you get!

Answer 20

I don't want to break up a relationship but he's not respecting you. Do you want to get married? 7 years and a child you should be (that's not a scolding just a reasonable opinion). he needs to commit to you and respect you. Don't be unhappy like this for too long. You deserve better.

Answer 21

Do the same. u start flirting with other guys and send them videos about u. i don't think he's gonna like it very much. hope u can fix your problem. if he keeps doin it that means that he doesn't love u unfortunately dumpin' him would be the only solution cuz once a guy starts doin that they keep doin it.

Answer 22

TEll him stop, or its OVer,

REpeat it, OR ITS OVER.

If he tried to explain himself, ask why he wants to flirt with these women anyway.

Another thing, hes probably doing this cuz he doesnt get any at home.

Answer 23

well you can start by not accepting it because thats what your doing, your still with him and your very much aware of what he is doing therefore he sees no reason to stop since at the end of the day he knows you wont do anything about it, the only way to get him to stop is to show him, rather than tell him, that he could seriously ruin your relationship and lose you, if he loves you and the daughter you both created he will give up his ways for you, if not you need to consider everything and decide what the next step for you is going to be.  

Answer 24

This is not acceptable. Either ban him from the computer unless your there or leave him honey it'll only end in tears no matter what way you look at it. It's your decision at the end of the day and even if he did stop could you learn to trust him again?

I think your not asking this for someone to tel you what to do. You lready know your own mind you just need outside encouragment to realise your right but you should be taking to him honey not us. We're right behind you what ever decision you make but we cant be there to pick up the pieces, you need to talk to him and THEN to a girlfriend.

I wish you and your daughter all the good luck in the world and may all your wishes come true.

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Answer 25

You probably know deep down that this is entirely unacceptable but I'm sure you love him so it's hard to admit it. Ask yourself this however, if he was behaving in this way when you first met him would you stand for that? I doubt it. If you give him an inch he'll take a mile. By making excuses for this behaviour, you may end up making excuses for further behaviour and that is unhealthy. You need to be strong and reclaim the respect you deserve. Put your foot down and don't allow him to treat you as second best. Taking the first step is the hardest but if you are honest with yourself you will always feel better for your actions in retrospect.  

Answer 26

Sounds like one of those warning signs that people always say "I cant believe they didnt see this comming".

Your should just tell him you want him to stop. If he wont then you may be asking for trouble if you stay with him.

Answer 27

Not that he can't stop, he WON'T stop.  He'll keep doing it as long as you put up with it.  No one can tell you what to do, you know what you should do

Answer 28

He sounds like a highly sexed looser... But if you really want to stick with him, he sounds like he needs more s*x. Handle that. But in the long run i doubt will save the relationship.

Answer 29

if is not acceptable, and you already told him to stop and he has not, leave him. He just thinks you are threatening him, but you won't do anything about it....Oh, if you leave him, don't go back to him

Answer 30

Gosh, after 7 years and a daughter, you'd think he'd grow up. Honey, its time to put him behind you and find a man who will love and cherish you.  

Answer 31

You poor thing, I have been in your shoes for 5 years. He is bored and wants out. These are signs not to be ignored. Sorry to say but it only gets worse. He is stimulated by eye candy and attention from other women. Does he go to bars? Strip clubs or titty/ binki bars? Once he does watch out. I have tried to fix my relationship w my ex but it only got worse. Stay positive and be confident. Jealousy is a sign of weakness. Once he sees you could care less then he will see you in a different light. Do things together to keep him away from his computer. GO to the gym, beach, park..watch movies together. Join a family club be involved with your community church. Join a sport together. Soft ball, ride a bike..anything to keep him away from temptation. Good luck girly. Leave it to God's hands and you will be okay.