My bf cursed at me in a fight?

Question

We don't fight often, or at all really, but last night my boyfriend and i had an argument which got pretty bad and basically he told me I was f*cking with him and to stop being a godd@mn bltch.

NO- he is NOT abusive in anyway, emotionally or mentally or physically. He apologized later and we are perfectly healthy and fine. This fight was just a really bad one, take my word on that.

I just want to know if other couples curse at each other if they are in a really, really big fight, or is it considered disfunctional?

Answer 1

If it doesn't happen often and he sincerely apologized for it, don't worry about it.

Answer 2

SOUNDS ABUSIVE TO ME....

Answer 3

Its normal. Nor relationship s perfect and people yell and curse at eachother. But no matter what he shouldnt call you a b*tch. So I would sit him down and say no matter how mad you get at me you are not allowed to call me that. You need to respect me and not call me names. If it happens again dont talk to him for a couple days, if you let them get away with it all the time they will keep doing it. And your bf should never call you that. But fighting, yelling and cussing is common. But not all the time.  

Answer 4

when people are angry they say things they dont mean..

Answer 5

It is usually where both of you have exceeded the point of acting like humans.  There are a few couples who enjoy fighting.  

the best advice is never argue when you are angry.

Answer 6

Its normal because hes temper is really high he prolly wasn't thinking about every little word he said just trying to make a point. Now if he starts saying that stuff to you when yall aren't fighting don't take it.

Answer 7

Uh, at least it wasn't f*ck you, like my girlfriend sometimes says to me in arguments.... OF COURSE ITS NORMAL! Have no idea what you're complaining about to be honest.

It's part of being in a relationship. People fight, and people curse. It's considered part of a "healthy" relationship, because you work past it and strenghten your bond.

Answer 8

its normal.

a healthy couple needs a fight at least ONCE!

Answer 9

Usually, it's a window into how he really thinks (of you).

If he's JUST your boyfriend -- then you have a problem. Because THIS is the time men act, behave at their best. There should not be any reason for that kind of shouting, etc. -- even if you were being an idiot. You didn't deserve abuse, and that's a sign of other things, in him.

You know best, not Yahoo readership.

Answer 10

I fight all the time, but I never, ever curse at her.  If I ever use a curse word, it would never be directed directly at her.  Use of words become a habit.  One should try to avoid that "first" time to ensure there is never a next time.  If he apologized, great.  Just keep an ear open to see if it becomes a habit.  Confront him immediately if he does it again to watch his langauge towards you.

Answer 11

its not abusive if this rarely happens

Answer 12

if it doesn't happen often don't stress it he's human we get angry sometimes lol

Answer 13

It was probably just the heat of the moment..... If he apologizes.... If he doesn't then you might wanna be concerned

Answer 14

My bf and me always curse at each other, because it is funny.

Sometimes I even tell him I want to cut his throat...but he just thinks that is adorable.  

Answer 15

Depends on the situation.

Answer 16

thats disrespectful,dont let it happen,its only gonna get worse

Answer 17

I don't normally curse in day to day life but when I am having a fight with my partner sometimes I let go with some really nasty words.  Its not something I'm proud of doing but in the heat of the moment things just happen.  

If it really bothers you then you should talk to him about it.  Just tell him that you don't like it when he speaks to you like that and you would appreciate it if he tried not to do it again.

Good luck.

Answer 18

when you mad,you say anything,  and later you be sorry for it.

Answer 19

cursing is just the beginning of our fights.  We spit, and throw things.  I guess thats not realy healthy...

Answer 20

these things happen, soon you will start too

Answer 21

I like to put voodoo curses on my boyfriend's family when we fight.

But he gets me back by running over my cats.

Answer 22

its standard

how long have you guys been together? if < 3 months, I'd really give it some thought as if you really want to continue with this relationship.

also, if cursing is part of his vocab, I dont think you should worry much. I curse occasionally and sometimes during arguements I say things to my gf I later regret.

Answer 23

Oh my gosh, he said a bad word!

get over it, seriously. You guys were obviously in a bad situation and he probably didnt know what to say cause you were right and that led to him saying that stuff.

I think getting over these kinds of arguements and starting to love each other again shows how strong a relationship can be.

Answer 24

Yeah, sometimes you just slip bad words.

Answer 25

If he apologized and there's hardly any fights, its okay.

Answer 26

It all depends how long you guys have been together. I've been married for 4 years next month (and trust me it happens). You are both human beings. As long as you guys don't make it a habit then you're relationship will be fine. One more thing....... it doesn't mean he has the right to disrespect you at all.

Answer 27

no worries it's normal...especially after feeling comfortable with each other it'll come out it's just an expression of anger and sometimes the only way to express how you're truly feeling is to curse, but don't let it become a habit in every other sentence ;)