My bf has a three year old daughter and she is bad

Question

she is very bad she tells him she hates him so he spanked her once on her pants but she is very mean me and him are planning on having a baby but she is already mean to her other sis not mine either but she cusses she is not like this all the time we put her in timeout but is does not work she hears the cusses from him and sometimes me but i dont like wanting her to cuss do you think we are doing the right thing so she is almost four so he is no abusing her and we dont live in ca because of spanking law well not because of that we live in de but dont answer if you dont belive in spanking

Answer 1

well as you are not the mother, id advise that you let the parents deal with it until such times they ask for your help or input.

Nichola - Mummy to 11mos old Sophie x*x

Answer 2

If time outs are not working, there is nothing wrong with a quick spank on her behind.  She has all of you bamboozled.

Answer 3

A little spank never hurt anyone (as long as that is as far as it goes). Have you ever watched Super Nanny? You can Google her online but it tells you all about the different ways to discipline your child. Like the timeout chair aka naughty chair and all of that. It is very important to start working hard on getting his 3 year old to listen before you have a baby because it will only make it harder if she is uncontrollable. I am actually going through the same thing with my husbands 5 year old. It is very hard but just make sure you and your boyfriend are on the same page and enforcing the same rules the same way. Consistency is very important. And making sure you follow completely through will the discipline is as well. Like if you tell her to sit in timeout for 5 mins, make sure she does and quietly, which means if she keeps getting up you keep putting her back in the chair until she sits for the 5 mins. It doesn't matter if she is throwing a tantrum or screaming. But also make sure you show no emotion either (anger or being upset, stay calm the whole time no matter how annoyed or angry you really are). I hope this helps! Good Luck!