My bf hits me...BUT...?

Question

but we're just messing around..he doesnt hit me or get violent when we fight, its just when we play around. BUT, at some point, it hurts so much, because he doesnt hit me like hes hitting a girl, he hits me like hes hitting a guy and i tell him its hurting and getting sore, (which its so bruised right now, its hard for me to move), but he doesnt stop! he'll keep going, because his logic is.."i get the last hit". is that ok cuz hes just playing around, as long as hes not hitting me when we fight? i just dont feel like its ok..but everytime i talk to him about it..his answers is " if u want respect, then u need to give respect..BUT IM A GIRL! U DONT HIT A GIRL!!!! am i wrong?

Answer 1

The answer "if you want respect, they u need to give respect" is absolute c**p. You need to tell this guy when you see him next, that if he hits you, you are going to leave him and then tell your father that he has been hitting you. Then, tell your Dad. He will know what to do. I am a father and I know exactly how to handle this.

Regards,

Dan

Answer 2

you are definitely not wrong. a guy shouldnt lay a violent hand on any girl. its just disrepectful no matter if you are playing around or not. get help from an adult or soem kind of authority.  

Answer 3

well **** it seems like he thinks of you as one of the guys  

Answer 4

First off this is abuse whether you think it is 'fooling around' or not.

Anyone who punches another person even when they are asked to stop is abusing them. This c**p about 'last hit' is just an excuse to use you as a punching bag. Dump him he is loser and is only one step away from belting you the next time you open your mouth and he doesn't like it. He sounds totally creepy. Don't play fight with him and

see if he hits you. He will I guarantee you. He is just looking to smack you probably because he is too afraid to hit another guy.

Answer 5

If hes hurting you its not fun tell him.

Answer 6

Younger guys even into their 20's still have not figured out a woman's body is nowhere as tuff as a man's.   Guys want girls to be just like a guy by nature.  We have to accept that a woman is fragile.  I can't think of anyway to get this thru your guys head,  But what I do know is if he's hitting you and you say stop and he doesn't its time to get a real MAN..  

Answer 7

Then stop the "fooling around" games!, hitting games never end up right.  

Answer 8

You're just playing around. It's not like he intentionally gives you bruises.

If he wants the last hit, let him have it.

So after he hits you, you don't hit him back.

Then the game is over and you don't get hurt or get any bruises.

Instead of playing around and hitting each other, try initiating a tickle fight. It's a lot less painful and possibly a lot more fun.

Answer 9

Maybe its time to stop the game play if its that big of a problem it seems like a game now but if you make it okay now and he doesn't stop what happens later and he really hits you

I know you've seen little kids play flight and then someone gets hit to hard and then its not a game anymore

Answer 10

Show him the bruises, Most likely he will feel bad cause he is literally bruising his girlfriend and will stop. if he doesn't, tell him.

Answer 11

meh, he should probably not hit you so hard if you don't like it... but from what you've described, he's not exactly on the level  of a wife beater.  

Answer 12

no, i totally agree with what you're saying. tell him to stop

Answer 13

No, you're not wrong. Even if it's just playing, Your boyfriend shouldn't hit you to the point where it leaves bruises on your body.

You shouldn't really play around like that at all, because it gives him the idea that maybe it's okay.. Which it's not.

Just don't play around like that anymore. Don't hit him & he won't hit you back.

Answer 14

not at all. he needs to grow up. ive  hit my girlfriends in the past, but we were just being goofy.she didnt even feel pain. if your bruised and have a hard time moving certain areas, something is wrong. HE NEEDS TO MAN UP!!

Answer 15

the point is he's hitting u. i was abused by a f**king dumb a** n trust me no guy should ever hit u 4 watever reason. either he stops or he gets the **** out. its the only way u can get respect.