My bf is in jail. am i wasting my time?

Question

weve only been together for about 5 months and out of those 5 months hes been in for about 2...he means everything to me and im trying to be there for him as much as i can...his family wont find the time to write or go visit him...i really do love this kid but im not cut out to be waiting for a guy(i dont think anyone is in this situation) but u cant help who you love.

Answer 1

it all depends on how long hes gonna b in and what hes in jail for...

you guys have only "been together" three months..so you have to think..is he gonna want to b in a relationship when he gets out and if you want to b with him..

good luck and hope you make the right decision...

Answer 2

You are wasting your time. Why in the world would you think so low about yourself and not think you deserve better? He is a thud and that will not change. You say your in love with him but not sure if you will wait for him. Ask yourself why that is? And, ask yourself what does he have to offer? What type of furture do you think you will have with him. Time to check your self-esteem, self-confidence and values. Good luck and go for a guy with his head on straight and his c**p is together. You derseve much better.  

Answer 3

yes ur wasting ur time they will never change...i was with this guy for 13yrs and i cant tell u how many holidays i spent by myself!!!!!!!

Answer 4

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Answer 5

"You can't help who you love" ?  

That's a lame excuse for staying with a jailbird.

We can't help you, then...

Answer 6

Yes you can "help who you love."  Love is an action not a feeling.  Lust and sexual desire is a feeling.

IMO, I would quickly move on.  Write a "dear John" letter.  Take him a care package and the letter.  Surely he'll understand.  If he's worth anything at all, he's probably having a hard time with guilt and remorse (hopefully) and if he cares about you he doesn't want you to be waiting around.  He's got enough on his plate with restitution, probation, getting his life and act together without complicating it with a relationship that he'd most likely ill-equipped to handle during this time of his life.

Answer 7

you gotta leave the fairytales alone homegirl....

move on with your life instead of sitting up crying every night....

Answer 8

Well, I saw this show where this woman was engaged and she was "spreading the word of God" to a prison and decided that she fell in love with someone who was convicted of murder.. So she broke up with her fiance and she was "with" some dude and of course he was on death row and she knew it, so... yeah.. you're a lot better off than that dumb *****.. But still.