My bf of 3 years doesn't have s*x with me anymore, why?

Question

My bf and I have been together for almost 3 years and have a child together but ever since about a year ago, my bf has lack interest in sleeping with me. He claims he is just tired, and I am pretty sure he's not cheating (long story)...but I am so tired of it and it makes me want to go be with someone else because it is making me very insecure. What should I do? Nothing I try to do to get him in bed works..absolutely nothing, and I am a very very physical/sexual person. Why won't he have s*x with me?

Answer 1

I'm going through the same thing but we just got engaged and he says he wants to honor his new faith in jesus and wait until marriage. Everyone tells me, "he's cheating!"

Answer 2

Something is going on for a man not to want s*x especially if the both of you are young.

If he can't/won't take care of you maybe you should find someone who will

Answer 3

Well maybe hes grown apart from you and just does not have the guts to call it quits, maybe he is tired, and does not equate s*x as what it should be anymore, maybe he lost that intimacy (did he ever have it) or did you always initiate s*x? and he think he does not know how to approach you because it's been so long. It takes both of you to make it work if he's not into it all the counceling in the world wont help, and if he's g*y well you need to discuss it openly and honestly. Why cant you just say, "you know been a long time since I got off, what's up"

Answer 4

That's a classic sign of someone who's cheating... that they stop sleeping with you. You may think that you know where he is all the time, but how do you know if he's really at work every time you think he is?

Mark my words, he is cheating! Come back when you find out that he is and let us know.  

Answer 5

Ok, I'm 16 and I have some experience with this (Sad, I know)

Try doing something new and mix things up a bit.

His s*x drive could also be low.

I doubt he is g*y... I know someone in here is gonna reply to your thread saying he is but don't listen to them.

Answer 6

Mayb go to counciling? I dont know, but, if he wont figure it out w/ you its really going to start messing with you head...

Answer 7

he could be bored, or he could just not be interested in you in that way anymore. either way, you need to have a talk with him about it and find out what's going on so you can figure out how to come with a solution.

Answer 8

Some guys get a hangup after you give birth. You become a mother and they find it hard to do it with a mother. Counseling helps.

Answer 9

he must be q***r... might wanna ask

(i also believe Mark C has made a good hypothesis as well)

Answer 10

He's banging your sister probably.  

Do you nag?  Are you overweight?  Are you a drag to be around?

Keeping a guy happy is easy.  Just don't be or do any of the things I asked about.  You must be doing something wrong.  

Answer 11

maybe you should have waited until you were married or in a committed relationship (engaged) to have sexual activities with each other and have a kid

Answer 12

I'd try to ask him this even if he wishes to ignore the question. No one can really tell you the correct answer cause its HIS reason, all we can do is suggest things that may make you worry more.

Answer 13

He loves you for more than just your body.

Answer 14

He is cheating!! Don't be fooled. You are in denile. I have heard people say that all the time: "I wish he was cheating then I could leave him".   I have been through it so many times with my friends saying "No no he's not cheating, I would know.".. And guess what?  The jerk was cheating every time!

The truth hurts. But you have to face it.

Answer 15

He is cheating on you.

Answer 16

he has gone g*y or is not in love anymore

Answer 17

MAYBE YEW NEED TO TAKE A SHOWER?

MAYBE YER BREATH STiNKS?

MAYBE HES g*y..

i DONT KNO TRY TO SEE iF ALL THOSE ARE A POSSiBiLiTY

Answer 18

You have herpies?

Answer 19

you should play hard to get i hate a girl who just gives it up its the challenge but i would just assume hes cheating im a guy i know and youre a girl so you will never believe it

Answer 20

Maybe you've gained weight after having the baby?

That could be what he might not like...or your body has changed in some way that he doesn't like.

Or, maybe the whole experience of having a child is a turn off?

Maybe you two should go see a counselor or therapist?

You need to get to the bottom of the problem...before it ruins you two. And if he wont tell you whats really the matter then seek professional help.

Maybe he's self conscious with something about himself?

Go ask a counselor.

Good luck.

Answer 21

Not want you want to hear but s*x is designed for marriage. Sit down with your pastor and discuss the dynamics and learn the beautiful gift s*x can be when used in context of marriage.

Good Luck

Answer 22

ummm

seriously

maybe you hit the gym

and then bring a friend