My bf who moved to another country recently changed all his email,facebook passwords and gave an excuse that ?

Question

he wants me to learn to trust him. i do not because i do not trust men!

he has not cheat on me before but on the last 3 weeks before he left we have been fighting everyday and mentioned that he needed space.. i dun get it. i asked for a break up after he arrived in his new country as i knew he didnt want me anymore. he kept saying trust him. he has not msg or call or talk as much and he had fun with his new colleagues. im afraid he is seeing somebody n will find sumbody. i wud rather get dumped than get cheated. he said im assuming things. sigh. i dun understand men.

Answer 1

You need to break up with him,,, that situation looks hopeless.  You were fighting for weeks, he moved to another country...just move on while youre young.

Answer 2

if you dont trust him then you should not be with him! go a head and break up now

Answer 3

just break up with him. u don't trust him, he lives in another country - u will spend your whole life thinking about if he is playing away.

Answer 4

My wife and I have been together almost 7 years (married 2), and she has never, and will never, have my passwords to email, facebook, myspace, etc...

We have a very trusting relationship, and I trust her completely just as she trusts me.  

This is simply a matter of personal space.  If she has those passwords, I cannot have a private conversation with anyone.  And yes, there are some topics that I wouldn't want her to read.  Not because they're inappropriate in any way, but because they're P-R-I-V-A-T-E.

Sounds like your two's relationship has more problems than myspace passwords.

Answer 5

you know what to do, you just need the extra push to do so.....DUMP HIM...it'll hurt a little but your doing it to clear your head

Answer 6

maybe he just need space.

but in any case, why not consider a semi-breakup ?

you guys are " seeing one another "

but you just go on to live life as you would !

every if he do cheat on you,

life for you have already gotten on track. (:

good luck ! (:

Answer 7

He sounds like a t**t, why don't you dump him!

Answer 8

dump him before he dumps you!! i mean seriously he moved to a different country and changed all his passwords on you

Answer 9

It's over and you already know that.

Answer 10

it sounds like you are quite smothering.

why did you know all his passwords in the first place? people need space. you could drive him away with this controlling behaviour.

Answer 11

He did that on purpose.....and he moved to another country, a guy did that and cheated on his girlfriend : (

Plus there are signs and you named a few.....I would move on and plus there are guys who wouldn't do this to you knowing how you feel.

Answer 12

It sounds to me that he is trying to keep you attached in some way.  He wants a girl who would wait for him, crawl after him, want him and long for him.  Cut the strings and move on.  He has so you have that right too.

Answer 13

you can't just assume all men aren't trustworthy. If you show that you don't trust him without any real reason other than this generalized issue with men, then you're going to end up pushing him away. Everyone is allowed some privacy, even married couples deserve their own little bit of it. You need to trust him, and let him continue to have his own life, while having a life with you.

Answer 14

what star sign is he? he's probably trying to flavours of the region.. I'd end it

Answer 15

this is exactly y im les. i think u should break up with him y else would he change all that stuff

Answer 16

I think ur afraid of being rejected. Seriously, why on earth would u HAVE to know his passwords and everything..sounds to me like ur being too controlling. Maybe it's true that he needed some space just to get over the fact that you never try to give him space to even breathe for a second by his own. I don't see you have any faith in him and in your mind you keep trying to remind yourself to break up with him. I don't see any reason for you to trust him though, but a least a lil bit of patience and faith will pay off.

It's not that I'm on his side but it's better if you think again. Sometimes a small matter would trigger a bigger probs. Guys arent girls, they have their own way for some personal space. And if they really are serious with you (and they told you so), they do mean it. Eyeing on other girls are common things to deal with but they surely won't forget who they really love.  

Answer 17

First, why did you have all his passwords in the first place? That's completely ridiculous... Second, if you don't want to get cheated on then break up with him.

Answer 18

I don't want it to seem like I'm just siding with your bf, but it's true that you can't assume that he's seeing somebody else. My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now and were very, very good friends for years before that, and we don't share passwords with one another -- and we have a fairly healthy relationship. Sure, we get into fights every so often, and a lot of the time it's because I feel that he isn't respecting my personal space. It ISN'T that I'm getting worked up because I'm hiding something from him, it's that I'd like it if he'd understand my own needs without me having to fight for them. That might explain why you two have been getting into fights lately.

Basically, you need to ask yourself whether you trust him. If you say no because you "do not trust men", then what's the point in being with him unless you're willing to try to work on it, bend a little?

Good luck to you and your bf. I think he wants to work things out, help him out a little yeah?

Answer 19

consider yourself dumped.

Answer 20

Something's wrong!!! He should WANT to talk to you and he should miss you. The fact that he doesn't want to contact you is a HUGE warning sign! Dump him before he dumps you.

Answer 21

He has used you to the point that he is tired of you.....  and wants to move on..  you are not getting it... he just does not want to be around you or have anything to do with youl..  changing all the addresses should be the first and last clue...  Move on he is not worth you care...   Good luck and I do wish you love...  grant M in Pennsylvania

Answer 22

You are supposed to have trust in a relationship. If you don't, it's not a relationship that is worth keeping. I agree with him for changing his passwords since you aren't supposed to give those out anyway.

Personally, you sound very possessive. You need to learn that treating a guy this way will only push him away very fast. Learn to trust the person you are dating.

You said you don't trust men... Well, then don't date them.

Answer 23

If you cannot trust then you have no business in a relationshsip.  People should be allowed some privacy in their lives..passwords...etc.  You are not married.  he probably had a chance to think about it all affter leaving.  Dont pester him, just tell him extactly what you told us...that you would rather him dump you if there is someone else than for you to hang onn and find out later on.

Answer 24

Dump him.

Answer 25

The only thing that I have to say is that if you don't trust men, you shouldn't be with one.  You can't be in a relationship without trust. It's not possible, it will fail, end of story. How can you live with someone you don't trust, how can you have s*x with someone you don't trust.  Just those two things right there are examples that people don't pay attention to.  If you don't trust the person you are doing those things with, then you might as well open your door to anyone who cares to come in and well...you know...