My birth mother asked me to move in and live with her, should I?

Question

To begin with, I haven't seen my birth mother since I was 2. Just two weeks ago I finally saw her after 27 years. I stayed with my birth family for four days getting aquainted with people in my family. Being the oldest of four children I have to say it feels wierd. Being her first born, she tells me Im still her special child. I dont what to do exactly, I know im happy to finally see her, but moving in with her its a tough decision. I admit moving in with her would do me good after not seeing her after so many years. I just dont know what to do, even her telling me not to rush things doesnt help matters. I had always wanted to know who my family was, and now I know. Im still dealing with the shock of meeting her, and it however doesnt change my feelings for her. I still love her and I always will. Youd think this decision is a common sense type decision but I dont think so. She has plenty of room, a two story apartment. I have to say this is one decision thats not going to be easy to make.

Answer 1

it's good that your giving her a chance.

and if you feel it would do you some good

just to move in for a lil while then i say go

for it. or just tell her you don't think you ready

for a decision like that and you would rather just

visit when you can.

Answer 2

I fell that it might be too soon.I am not sure what your living arrangements are though.I says if she has a stable job and  you both have talked then give it time.If your mother gave you up for adoption because of finances or a valid reason  then give her a chance. I belive that both of you should sit down and talk about what your expectations are and where you see each other in the future.What do your parents that raised you feel, talk to them too and let them know what you feel and that you love them too it should work out .make up time lost.if all works out do things for her like draw pictures and stuff or do things you would have done as a child for her .Good luck  

Answer 3

I think your are just looking at her double storey house.I don't think it would be a wise decision to move in with her.You'll be better off by just meeting her at weekend etc etc.You are nearly 30 and mature enough to be not trapped by her.

Answer 4

So you're 29?  Don't you have your own place to live?  You're an adult.  You don't need to live with your mom or birth mom.  Live in your own place and visit your birth mom on weekends.

Answer 5

If I read you right, you are 30 years old? Why first off would you need to move in with your mother? If you have your own apartment and life, there would be no reason to do so. Visiting would be just fine seeing as your an adult.

Second, you love her but you don't know her all that well since you have just met recently, I would say if you do want to move in test the waters first because even though she is your mother it could be difficult and cause a bad spot in your trying to restart a relationship with her, you might not like things she does at home or same for her, it would be bad to start tension right off the bat. Hang around for a good while, moving in with someone family or not can always have consequences. Personality's clash easily.

Third, its really great you were able to meet your family and your birth mother! :0) I am sure she is so thrilled to have you back in her life, saying this though there is a reason she wasn't around. Just do some research before you make any big choices in your life. Good Luck and congradulations!

Wishing the best for you situation, just wait it out.