I have body image issues. My entire happiness has always depended on how thin I am. I’m not sure why. I’m 5'5". My lowest weight was 90 lbs. but I was really happy then. Everyone complained at me so much that I gained weight but it spiraled out of control & ended up at 140 lbs. I became a recluse. I never left my house, I didn’t socialize with people, I stopped wearing makeup, I pretty much hid & didn’t want to be noticed. I was so unhappy so I lost 30 lbs. I got back to 110lbs. I felt good & I didn’t feel that I had gone overboard. Just a happy medium. I went tanning all the time, kept up my appearance again, had a lot of confidence in myself
I met my husband at that point. I was happy with myself but about a year later he suggested I get breast implants because I was thin & also very flat. I did it because I thought he was right. I looked wafish & couldn’t fill out my tops. So I had the surgery 7 months ago. From the minute I woke up I was hysterical. I tried to hide it but I just felt HUGE. Not even just in my chest but I felt like a cow. I have been spiraling downward ever since. I’ve been depressed & I hate the scars. They just won’t go away. I’ve gained 25 lbs since I got the surgery done. So on top of hating my b***s I’m fat again too. I just feel NASTY.
My husband says things like “Your Doctor is amazing. I can’t believe how great you lookâ€Â. And I think he’s so full of it. If I say I’m happy he’s fine. If I say I’m not really happy with it he gets mad. He’s the one who paid for it. He feels like he wasted $8,000 on me. I don’t blame him but I can’t walk around exclaiming how much I love my body when I don’t.
Neither one of us has the money for another surgery. I would like them removed entirely or at least to get a small lift because the scars widened & pulled the b***s down from the weight of the implants. I’m grossed out by myself. I don’t even want to take a shower because I have to be naked. What can I do to get past this? I can’t have another surgery. I’m fat with huge b***s. I used to be thin & wafish. I want that back. I don’t even want people to touch me. My arms are chubby, I don’t even want to wear a tank top anymore. I’m getting embarrassed again to leave my house. I run into the bathroom when my husband’s friends come over because I’m afraid that I’ll embarrass him & they’ll tell people that my husband has a fat wife. Some of his friends bring their girlfriends over & they’re a lot younger than me. They’re thin & cute. They don’t have big b***s. I feel jealous & embarrassed.
Does this effect anyone else out there? Do you ever just feel like you want to hide? Are you ever embarrassed for your husband because you know you should look cuter than you do? I feel like I’m an embarrassment to him. He doesn’t think so & by the way I do not talk to him about this. He doesn’t know I feel this way. He tells me all the time that I’m HOT blah blah blah. I think he’s just being nice.
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