My b***s make me feel really bad about myself sometimes?

Question

Like I feel like a freak and want to cry.

I am somewhere between a 38 and 40 D ... in bra size. And the only days I feel good about myself is when I dress with a shirt that covers them up like a turtle neck or something. And black shirts is all I ever wear because they are just big and pop out even if I am wearing a sweater. My whole life I have been covering up.

In high school when they developed more, I felt sooo awkward.

And somedays when I want to look nice or I look forward to dressing up I only anticipate something I want to wear only to find my b***s pop out and it make me feel frustrated.

The other day I decided to be daring and wear a lightish grey sweater short sleeve shirt for the new semester at college and guys heads (like 7 almost at once) were turning and I immediately just threw a jacket on to conceal it more. I felt embarrassed.I hate getting that attention, it makes me feel really bad about myself.

The problem is I am a young woman and I should feel young but I feel like a woman woman ... mature and old because that's how I feel comfortable to dress so I don't feel insecure. It's not like I am fat, I have a small frame and figure and weigh 121 and am 5 "4 but when I see my breast, if I ever notice they are there for longer than usual I begin to hate myself, my body.

And the other problem is that big b***s run in my family. I am going to keep growing. My mom is a DD and my sister is larger than a DD, I don't know the letter that is bigger than that.

My boyfriend loves my body and my breast, he hates when I feel like this because of my breast. I want to change, I am trying so hard ...... How can I learn to love myself?

Kind answers please. Thanks

Answer 1

OMG dont listen to these ppl telling u to get a reduction!!!! no way.

the letter that follows DD.. E hun, and thats me. trust me i know exactly how u feel. im only 18. it makes u feel dirty gettingall that typse of attention (esp from the creepy older men). dont know but u but i get beeped at and hear all sorts of.. propositions every day no joke.

im not at all fat too, so im like u - they run in the family! usually im a D however as im having some hormone imbalances atm. trust me, it can be so much worse.

in my oppinion, D is a wonderful cup size. i cant wait to get back there.

Answer 2

Im bigger chested too, but I love my body.. common now.. I bet there are many girls who would trade places with you..  If you honeslty honestly cannot deal with it then id go through sergery.. because you dont want to live you life covering up!! Thats absolutely terrible.. love what you have!!  

Answer 3

You really have 3 options.

a). Go get measured at a good quality bra shop, they can minimise and give the support you need.

b). Go to you GP and talk about back pain, neck pain and head aches. Tell them you get depressed about the unwanted attention you get.

c). Learn to love them and the attention they bring. My daughter and I are both DD/E. She copes better than I do and loves the attention, she wears clothes that show them off. She says people pay a fortune for what she got for free so she's not going to hide them.

Have you talked to your mum and sister about how they cope.

My gym has told me boxing firms and reduces, but I haven't tried.

Answer 4

tell your doctor your backs hurts due to the weight of your b*****s, maybe you can claim it on insurance to get them down sized...My wife is looking into that herself

Answer 5

Save you $$ and have them reduced.

Answer 6

Just take all that attention and turn it into confidence you must look good or they wouldnt be looking right? Dont worry so much about what other people think of oyu its what you think of you that counts !

Answer 7

I had the opposite problem so I understand how frustrating that body part can make you feel. What I did, now in my 20's, is to get an augmentation. I'm now a 36D and have noticed that depending on what I wear they can look smaller or bigger.

I suggest you get measured for the right size of bra, you will see a big difference.  Oh, and turtle necks tend to emphasize the chest too much so you might want to try different tops.  

I don't condone surgery, although I think it was the right choice for me, but I think that if you feel you have exhausted all your options, perhaps it's something you might want to consider. I think it's a small price to pay for the way you will feel afterwards.  

If you don't feel good about something that can be fixed, you can't enjoy life to the fullest. It's not only a matter of cosmetics, but it goes beyond that.  Ultimately you have to do what makes you happy and content with yourself, and people who care about how you feel will understand and respect your decision.

Best of luck to you.

Answer 8

I will have to inspect them personlly to provide a solution

Answer 9

r u serious?

Answer 10

no matter how insecure you feel you should always look at the bright side of things even when your down you should find a way to distract yourself i'm sure your boy friend isent dateing you for looks so keep positive and be happy with what you got.

Answer 11

big b*****s are acutally really bad for your back and you probably already knew that

but you should seriously consider a breast reduction



i mean even though people say love your body and be happy with it, if you cant wear what you want and feel confident and if you have back pains because of the way your body is, then you should change to something that is more suitable for yourself.

hope this helped

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Answer 12

This is too much EXAGGERATION of your self.

Love your body as it is.

or find a Surgeon and ask him to cut them to half or nil.

Answer 13

well i know th sizes bigger than a dd..my mum is an f..n she is by no means fat...in fact she is very slim..i did not inherit tha gene tho as i am a 32 c..but what you hav got 2 remember is tha 99.9% of th ppl out there dont think there body is perfect..every1 has got something they dont like about them-self...nobody..no matter what they say 100% loves everything about them!!!! i kno tha th members of my family tha hav got large b*****s don't totally love it..im told it can b quite a burden when running 4 a bus :).. but i can honestly say my cousin looks a d**n site betta in a low slung dress then me because of them..whether she thinks it or not :) 2 sum it up tho there is no magic answer  2 lovin ur body.u jus need 2 realize u get wot ur given and you should enhance it not hide it!!!

Answer 14

Just know that people pay thousands to get b***s like yours. Im 38 D too and i love my b***s =]  

Answer 15

I think you may be confusing how you feel about your b*****s and how you feel about the way you are treated because of them. I have a friend with a similar prob, only much more so. Too much to hide by any means. She got aggressive, flaunting them, embarassing those that stared too long, keeps candy/ treats tucked in her bodice to tease the boys with. She joined the Socity for Creative Anachronism, wears a low cut elizebithan gown, and learned to be a great sword fighter. Boys that overstep, "Get the point" in a hurry, she has learned to flirt outrageously, and developed a saftey network to back her up. In the sca she has been able to try on different personas and approaches to dealing with her form. In short, they are now a source of power. If you want, I'll see if I can find her facebook reference for you.

   Someone shared with me a formula. E+R=O Event plus response equals outcome. The event, mens attention, is neutral. how you respond is the key to outcome and how you feel. Stand in front of a mirror, pretend you are getting paid $10,000 to model a really expensive designer blouse for a photo shoot but they are going to put someone elses famous face on the photo. try some bold but classy poses, emulate someone you respect who is also bustier. get a girlfriend to take some photos of you chest/shoulders and take a look, list 10 things you like about  yourself. If you are really desparate contact me directly and I'll search out some reference material.  

Answer 16

Hi, I'm 36 D but used to be much bigger. Here's a tip: go to a good underwear shop and have them measured well, get some different types of bras that make them look different.  Start to enjoy them...show cleavage when you go out at night, support them properly and comfortably.  I think it's important that you accept this part of your body like your boyfriend does because it will not change unless you have surgery and lets face it, do you know how many women there are in the World that would like huge b***s!! :-)))

Answer 17

Shoot, let me have them!

Answer 18

if you really hate it you should get a breast reduction