My boss kissed me then ?

Question

Ok here a stupid thing that happened.

I had an internal interview couple of weeks back and I didn’t get the job. The interview was conducted by a 2 people one of which was my ex boss. Whilst I was working with him we had a very good rapport and he was always happy with my work.

Though the other person (who got the job) had an edge over me for this post deserved it. My ex boss wanted me to get it .

Then last Friday night Our office group went out for few drinks. Whilst we all were a lil drunk , my exboss ( who was not very drunk) revealed how much he wanted me to get the job and because other person in the panel I didn’t get the job .

He said he was sorry again n again .and was asking to hold my hand (I guess it meant no offence ) . Then he even took my hand and kissed it . I felt this was bit too much ?

What do u think ? is this just a way to say sorry I could do enough . I haven’t met him since then and don’t know how I should react when I meet him ?

Answer 1

he kissed ur hand ??

then whats the big deal?

Answer 2

Depends on where you're from. In the US it was sexual harassment or he's a lonely man.

In Europe, he was just being nice and he's a lonely man.

Answer 3

he stepped over a line.  let him know you are not interested and leave it at that.  if he continues to pursue or treats you differently as a result, report everything to human resources.

Answer 4

That was harmless.   If you want it to go no further it does not have to.

But the opening is there if you want it

Answer 5

Flags are all over the field on this one.  Inappropriate behavior!

Answer 6

It sounds as if you are uncomfy with what took place. If you are uncomfortable then you can approach him or leave it alone. However, if he acts that way again and you are uncomfortable.....then you address it immediately to him.

However, if you are interested. Then ask him out to dinner/lunch and see what happens.

Is this person usually a touchy feely person? My sister hugs and kisses everyone and I am the opposite. In other words, is it part of his personality?

Good Luck!

PS

If you really are uncomfortable (statement a bit to much) dont let it happen again!

Answer 7

He seems like he wants a little somethin somethin from u and that he doesn't get a lot of action. Ignore Him!!

Answer 8

He's looking to get in your pants, nothing more.

Answer 9

Sounds like he really likes you.  If you are not interested than you have to tell him.  Don't get his hopes up.

Answer 10

Your HAND! Big deal. I mean, kind of corny, but it's not your lips!

Answer 11

he was just trying to help you. kissing you on the hand is a gesture of good luck in many countries... if he tried to kiss you on the lips .. than you might of gotten the job ... with benefits.... yukkkk

Answer 12

well just put it down to drink and forget about it, he only kissed your hand its no big deal.

if you felt it was not right you should of said so at the time, don't bring it up now Cox that will just make you look like your being petty.

try not to be alone with him next time you go for drinks or even better give the drinks a miss.

best of luck

Answer 13

You have to keep an eye on this man. He is training you like a dog!

How is that? You see, when you are at work (i men the interview) he´s all professional and when you are in another place (bar) "alone" (i mean more relax) and with a few drinks he´s showing he can take "care" of you   at job. What´s the message? If you are "kind" (sleep) with me, i can help you to get a job or a promotion. Do this sound familiar to you?

You see, we men always get a way to tell the message, don´t have to be in a direct way.

Be careful, do not trust this guy.

I wish i could tell you sleep with him and you´ll get the job, but that is not always true! It´s just a hook!

Answer 14

Sounds like sexual harrasment to me too!!!! Since you didn't get the promotion anyway SEW THEM SUCKERS , hey ya might never have to work again with a s*x. harras.  case on your hands... lol... But if your not lookin to do something like that , like i would ...Always lookin for get rich schemes. Then I would say that he is interested in you and I would act normal next time you see him .... If your interested in him then your should talk to him about it! If not Forget about it... If it happens again or he comes on stronger...let him kno the deal!  

Answer 15

i think it was just cuz he was a bit drunk! and sorry but i dont think its a way to say sorry

Answer 16

I got 3 promotions by having s*x with my boss... just go with the flow... afterall it's what puts extra food on the table

Answer 17

Just a fella making his move.

I wouldn't think about it too much, if he was really interested he would have tried to contact you again.

The job thing was just an easy excuse to make his move.

Oh and by the way, it is not sexual harassment!

Your were in a social setting and not at work when this happened. So forget those idiots that say is was.

Answer 18

The drink made him say sorry the only way he could at the time and place you was both in, and it was in front of co workers so that tells me that he meant it.

i think it may be your imagination and wishful thinking why you came to think all that up in your head that there could be more to It don't know what your facial expression was at the time he kissed you, but that may be why you haven't seen him since.

Answer 19

he is horny like all of us men

Answer 20

well i think that he may  be a little druk, when he did that

but i think that your decition if you want something with he the go ahead, but i you dont, then make that clear that, the next tiem you meet him....

Answer 21

Sounds like he is very interested in you; you would be more likely know better if it is just to get you "alone" or if he would want a relationship.

Bear that in mind the next time you run into him.  Adjust accordingly.

Answer 22

Obey the 3rd commandment

Answer 23

I don't think it's a big deal. Sounds like alcohol gives him balls

Answer 24

Wow. That would make me feel uncomfy too. Just act like it didn't happen. It could be that he had just a little too much feel good juice, or maybe he had some hidden feelings toward you and hoped that you would respond back. But you didn't. You could choose to ignore it and if it happens again and you don't want to take it there, try to shy away from him so eventually he would get the drift your not interested. :) I hope this helps.

Answer 25

he wants to put his shwing-schwong in your vajay-jay no doubt

Answer 26

wow. uh, that is weird.

i think it was going a little too far. you should talk to him about it, ask what that was all about. tell him it made you uncomfortable.

Answer 27

Inappropriate. Unprofessional. He's your ex boss and is still in a managerial position. If he tries it again, I'd be blunt with you feelings about it. If it continues, report it.