My boss lost it after my resignation. What now?

Question

I will try to make this short.

I gave my two week resignation today. My manager was NOT happy with me and walked out of my office telling me to put it in writing. She didn't respond to me when I called her back to explain I had a letter already to go. She left the office early ( that was planned )

I got a call about 1/2 hour later from her when she said she was sorry about the about her behavior. She then asked me if I would consider staying a month as this was customary for management. She also then asked me when I got the job offer. I told her on Friday. She said to me " oh that was when you were having oral surgery?" ( That is honest to god what I was having done ) She also said, " I know your husband is working part time now". What do you need the extra money for? I couldn't answer her! I was floored.

I tried to explain that I have been told that this company often will escort you out of the office upon resignation and that I was expecting this that is why I gave a 2 week notice.

She told me that THIS office never does that and if you want to leave today you can.

I told her I had things to complete before my resignation date and would like to do so. She said Honey, we can talk in the morning about it....

I personally feel so traumatized that I can't complete my time I promised. I am in tears and emotionally a wreck.

Advice? I already took a mental health day off today...called off to take a break from the stress.

Answer 1

If you can afford to, take the next two weeks to de-stress from the job you are leaving and rejuvenate yourself for your new job.

Answer 2

hey.......firstly calm down.  You can and will, if neccesary, complete any time you need to.  it is the professional and right way to do things, other than your boss who is acting like a spoilt brat.  You have done everything correctly, just make sure you ahve everything documented.  Do you have a personel dept, or HR dept? could you log it with them too?  or someone higher up than your boss? Just make sure you have documentary evidence of everything you have said.  Work out exactly when you want to leave, then tell you boss that is when you are going and why.  keep it all, calm and collected and if she asks questions like that again tell her that what you do outside of your present job is private.  You do not have to be rude, just firm.....

sounds like you are best off out of there!

Answer 3

You are now a "short-timer".  Anything you need to finish is to your old company's benefit, not yours.

If they don't want to let you finish up what you have to do, then that is their problem, not yours.  

Your primary focus should be on getting ready to begin your new job, not on cleaning up your old one.  Especially if your boss is acting less than professional.

Answer 4

Your boss is unprofessional.  Don't stoop to that level.  You did what you should have done, and you did it the correct way.  Do not stay a month.  Stay your two weeks, as is standard practice when you leave a job.  

And about feeling emotionally traumatized- seriously?  Grow up and realize that sometimes people act stupid and unprofessional and that will never change.  You don't need to answer any questions of hers.  If she implies you were not having oral surgery, jsut tell her you had interviewed for this postion prior, and they called you to officially offer you the position that day.  If she brings up that you don't need the extra money, tell her that you appreciate her concern for your financial affairs, but you have decided to make what you feel is the best career move for your life.  Make sure you tell her you have enjoyed your time there, learned alot, ect- but it's time for you to move on.

Answer 5

You are under no obligation to stay for a month, just your resignation period.  If a month was customary for management then it would be in your contract.

As for asking you what you need the extra money for etc etc it's none of her business.  You don't need to tell her anything, not even which company you're moving to.  I wouldn't bother trying to keep her onside unless you need her for a reference or think that you might have to do business with her in the future.

Personally I wouldn't get upset about not completing your time - it sounds like you were expecting that anyway if your company normally escorts people off site.  If you give your required notice and they tell you to go immediately then legally (in the UK anyway) they still have to pay you for your notice period, so you shouldn't lose any money.

It sounds like you've caught your boss on the back foot and she wasn't expecting you to leave.  At the end of the day that's her problem.  You're obviously leaving for a reason, so don't get yourself worked up about it and just think about the great new job that you're going to be starting.