My boss loves me! help?

Question

Ok so me and my current boss hired in together around a year ago. My problem is he is in love with me! he is a very nice guy and has his head straight but he is a. not my type and b. my boss! When me and my bf broke up a couple of months ago he wasted no time in asking me out. Literally the day he found out! I know he thinks the world of me because we have a lot in common but like i said he is my boss. When he asked me out i said that it really sounded like fun but i am not keen on dating people i work with so i would not mind going out as friends but not a date. Well me and ex-bf got back together and boss man is not to happy about it. He is always making little remarks that in all honesty are not that far from the truth but in the end it is my decision to be with him. He has even asked me to marry him on a few occasions. No he wasnt kidding either. I went in for emergency surgery a month ago and all he could talk about was if i had married him i would have had some insurance and wouldnt be stuck with a 20,000.00 bill. Which is also one of the errks I have with my bf. We arent married after 5years and he had insurance. So the boss knows how to puch those angry buttons i have. What is a good way to really get through to him that i am not intersted? i dont want to be mean cuz like i said he is a nice guy and great boss and he doesnt make me uncomfortable or anything like that. I am just looking for a way out.

Answer 1

Looking for a way out?  Doesnt sound like youre in.  Just talk to him a little less so you have to listen to dribble less.

Answer 2

If he has a boss you need to go say something to him. First, tell your boss that he needs to lay off and respect your situations. If he doesn't then go to his boss and say something. That is considered harassment and you shouldn't have to deal with it. I know you are nice and don't want to get him into trouble, but you need to say something. If you don't like those ideas it may be time to look for another job to get out of the situation he has put you in. Good luck.

Answer 3

The truth hurts honey.

I think you really have to just deal with it. If you are going to let your business be known then you have to expect people to call you on it when you are with someone who does not deserve you!

Answer 4

You sound like a sensible and wise lady!  Follow your intuition, follow the same cause of action you have been doing.  May be he has a point that you need to look into your issues with your BF, but that is totally separate from situation of you and your boss.

I wouldn't go to his boss unless the situation become a harassment.  Stay cool and level headed and consistent with your message that you COULD NOT consider him (safer than WOULD NOT !).

Good Luck

Answer 5

NOT a good idea. Don't do it.