My boss wife always asking questions?

Question

about me. I am not one to really tell my business, unless we are friends and i see that you have my best interest at heart. and in todays world people just care about themself. anyway she is like always askign me questions, that make me feel uncomfortable. she works for him 2 days of the week. i am the type of person that is honest. but i really do not like telling her about my life. how can i like not answer her questions.

Answer 1

Start documenting every question she asks. Don't answer anything about your personal life. She is looking for something to hold against you.

There is an air of competition in your question. She is probably worried you will cheat with her husband. If that is not the case then she is definitely in a competition with you some  way or another. Never answer personal questions at work. If you go to lunch only talk about work.  

Answer 2

There will always, always, always be people who are nosy.  You did well telling her it was personal and standing your ground in not telling tell why you were going.  You sound like you might be someone who doesn't talk about themselves and she is an extravert wanting to get to know you only by your answers (information) about your personal life. Try changing the subject or giving her information you are willing to part with.

Good luck as I had this same problem with a collegue.  It's not fun to deal with - especially as it's your boss's wife.

Answer 3

You don't have to be honest about your personal business when someone like that is around. You have to consider the relationship: the bosses wife. So you don't want to be offensive. I think you need to be superficial: only doing whats expected of you. One thing to note is the atmosphere your boss creates. In the states, most companies forbid relatives from working at the same place. Yet, here your boss is, with his wife, getting into your personal business.

You can safely lie to this busybody without worrying about anything.  

Answer 4

Just let her know when she asks a question. "That's personal, and I'd rather not answer it." If she thinks you're rude, so be it.  

Answer 5

Why would you like to know? Is a simple answer. And then when she gives her answer. Say its a private matter, and end the conversation and walk away.

Answer 6

Well, you shouldn't feel like you have to answer her questions.  You can try to be vague or simply tell her you'd rather not talk about it.  If she persists, then be firm but polite, and don't give any details at all.  If you need time off and don't want her to know, then tell her you have business or some things to take care of.  Most people will get the hint...unfortunately some will not.  But, as she is you bosses wife, try to be as polite as possible.  

The other thing you could do is try being the one asking questions.  Derail her by asking questions back.  People who like to be that nosy generally don't mind talking about themselves, so why not try turning the tables.  If she's busy talking about herself then she is too busy to ask about you.

Answer 7

people can be very nosy.  never give more information than you have to.  try saying 'I have a personal matter to take care of.'  that can take care of just about anything, doctor's appt, court, or job interview (if you have to).  some people will take the hint that you don't want to talk about it, others need the more direct approach, 'it's a personal matter & I don't wish to discuss it.'

good luck!