My boyfirend is going to the navy for 4 yrs....?

Question

He says he wants to be with me...how will this relationship work?? I mean im going to school for nursing and i wont be done for another 3 yrs.....i dont know i am falling in love with this guy and he wants to go follow his dreams.....im so scared of losing him to another woman that he will be out there with...

we have a great relationship...he's not leaving until may so we still have time to spend but i just dont know...how will this relationship be effective

Answer 1

Try taking some classes now and then if you feel that it is right transfer to a school near him when the time comes. You have alot of time left to decide what to do, just think about it, think about what you want and talk to him about it.

Answer 2

im a marine fiancee

throughout my entire relationship ive been in West virginia in school

he's in new york.

two weeks after we started dating he was moved to ny before that he was in nc.

a relationship is very possible you have to trust him, be patient with him, and honest about everything.

Distance will only come between you two if you allow it too.

dont let your area code define how your relationship works out.

you wont lose him to another woman!

you have to be forgiving though. mistakes happen, and distance can cause issues. but cheating should really be the least of your problems.

and if it happens it happens. it was a mistake...

long distant relationships are hard. but worth it.

you learn to value a persons mind and ideas and not just their sexual appearance. a relationship based around pure love and not s*x

Answer 3

Sorry to say, long distance relationships rarely work out.  If you want to stay with him, you will probably need to transfer schools to where-ever he gets stationed after his initial training.  You could also try distance learning.  

My recommendation is to end the relationship and go your separate ways.  Concentrate on your schooling.

Answer 4

If his term is for 4 years and it will take you 3 years to finish school...  Then I say thats great.  You both will have time to do what you have to do before you actually start a family.  You would much rather be financially secure 3 years from now, which you will be if you both follow through.  If committment is there, you have nothing to worry about.  If you two are in love with one another then you will both be fine.  It will be hard from time to time.  You will miss him, he will miss you.  But you wont be losing contact and it wont be the last time you see him.  Just do your thing right now, let him do his, its better to get it all out of the way before finances become a burden and you are living with his or your parents for years.  I know this first hand, not from me, but from what I have seen.  Best wishes!!!

Answer 5

Got to be honest. It is not looking good for you two. He is going to be stationed where ever they decide to station him and for however long they decide (within his enlistment time of course). And you are going to be very busy with your nursing school. I would just assume that when he leaves that your relationship does to. That way it is not so bad on you guys trying to make it work.

Or you can try.  

Answer 6

If he was staying home and your school required you going away would you want him to wait for you.

If you want it to work commit to giving it your all, but be realistic to the fact that it may not.  Agree that if your feelings change you won't lead the other one on.

Answer 7

I have had a relationship with a certian wonderful woman for 36 years. What keeps us together is two words: love and trust, without them there is nothing.  

Answer 8

If you know you love him, why dont you consider marrying him. If you both want to be together then you can make it work, get married so then you can go with him where ever he goes, and then you can t take classes at the local college while he is gone. But if you question ur relationship at all, just wait, chances are if he really loves you he wont mess with another girl and he prob wont have time to either. Think about it and go with ur heart....good luck

Answer 9

You have asked this question before. My answer hasn't changed. Get your degree and then plan your romantic relationships. There could be times where he is gone for extended periods and you would be sitting home regretting not still being in school. There would be no money for you to follow him around and you could not live in base housing unless you are married. I think he is more worried about you not being there when he needs you.

Answer 10

Im sorry about your problem that a tuffy. Well.. ya know i honestly dont think i could go 4 years witought (or barely ever) seeing him and keep a relationship going. I mean when your out with all your friends and they are checking out cute guys but you cant look at anyone, or date or anything when you dont even get to see your boyfriend himself it can be REALLY hard.

Also if you wait 4 years, by the time you get together again  he could have changed, in fact the navy will probably change him alot. I would tell him that I cant go 4 years with him but not be with him, if you know what i mean. I would tell him that we should see other people, then maybe after the 4 years, when you see each other and hang out a little you can get back together. But if this guy is REALLY special to you, and you really think he is the one. If this is the man you want to spend the rest of your life with, then you can wait. :)

Good Luck!

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