My boyfriend's dad is making up lies about me. How do I approach him about this?

Question

I live with my boyfriend and his parents. First off his dad is always mean to me behind my back saying I eat too much (I only eat one meal a day!), I'm a fat lazy pig, and that my boyfriend is only with me cause I'm "free s*x". His mom also calls me a b**** behind my back. Then yesterday my boyfriend came home and started yelling at me saying that he knows about the guy I had over cause his dad told him. He said his dad said he heard me talking to someone in the bedroom. I never had a guy over, I slept until 3! (didn't go to sleep until daylight.) Now my boyfriend believes me, but his dad almost caused us to break up. How can I ask his dad why he's treating me this way and how can I get him to stop?

Answer 1

it won't stop until you tell him straight out "what is your problem?"

my advice move out it is the only solution i can think of.

Answer 2

If you and Boyfriend are grown enough to shack up, you're grown to have your own place.  Get out of his parents house.

The man shouldn't be calling your names, but leave his house and you won't have to listen to it.  

If Boyfriend is automatically believing anything his father says about you (yelling at you because Dad claims you're s******g around) and not confronting Dad about his obvious ill treatment of you, then that says A LOT about Boyfriend.  You don't need a guy like that.  

Leave.  And if you have to leave Boyfriend behind then so be it.  It may be for the best if you did leave him behind--rather you have to or not.

EDITED TO ADD THIS AFTER YOU ADDED ADDITIONAL DETAILS:

“My boyfriend tells his dad all the time to stop this”

If Boyfriend really cared about you he’d get you out of there, even if it meant that you leave and he stays.

“he believed that I had a guy over because I cheated once before and he is still on edge about it”

Then clearly he doesn’t trust you.  Without trust a relationship will not last.  But, I don’t blame him—I wouldn’t trust someone who had already proven to me that they were untrustworthy (which is what you did when you cheated), but neither would I remain in a relationship with them.

“he's actually my fiance so leaving is bad”

That’s the worst excuse I ever heard.  You don’t need to stay just because he’s your fiance.  You know there are people in the world who don’t live with Boyfriend / Fiance / Husband until they’re adult enough to move out and establish their own home.

Stop making excuses and leave.

Answer 3

Ask him what you did to him to cause him to treat you this way and how you can resolve this problem then work on getting out of thier hometry asking for some chores Oh and get up early to help you could also get a job and start saving for your own place

Answer 4

You will just have to confront him and ask him why he is telling lies about you, or get your boyfriend to talk to his parents and ask them what the problem is.  It may be best if you move out then you won't keep being hurt.

Good luck

Answer 5

You know these people don't like you , for what ever reason...so why do you stay in their home ? Get out and stay away from them. Your bf seems to be ready to believe them , when in fact he should be defending you to them.. this whole thing sounds very unhealthy.

Answer 6

Why, oh why, are you still there? Yikes, if your self-esteem is that low, you definitely need immediate counseling. Learn how to like yourself and get the he-- out of that house! And any boyfriend who will let his family mistreat you should be gone.

Answer 7

Do you ever think it maybe due to having a extra person in the house.

I would certainly face his dad and ask him out right "wassup" with you why all the c**p your feeding your son and WHY????

The fact his Mum isnt to happy either makes me wonder if they would like there own family back again with out any extras

Answer 8

well, i once had the saaaaaame problem...but with peeps my age.. u got to tell some one who cares about u ( mom, dad, exc) and shut him down!!! shut him down like an old computer u dont want!!!! make up lies that say ur gonna sew him and every thing! he will stop!!! if he doesnt! actully do it!!! cuz thats neglieting some1!! and negliet is a form of abouse!!! ( i saw that on a bill board!)