My boyfriend's gran just died. What can I do?

Question

They were really close and he used to stay at her house all the time when he was younger. We're both 20 now and have been together for three and a half years. His gran was 84 and had been in hospital for ages, so he knew it as coming eventually.

I don't know what to say or do, I've never been in this situation before. Help?!

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Answer 1

Just be as supportive as possible and ask him what you can do for him.  

Answer 2

do not repeatedly tell him that you are sorry. i think it only makes things worse. just let him know that you are there for him and be exactly that.

Answer 3

comfort him, bless is grandmother, and tell him that now she&#039;s up in heaven so she can see him and she&#039;ll always be there for him :) that would make him feel better

Answer 4

Just give him a little space. Grief is the hardest emotion to overcome. You can help by showing him love and support.

Answer 5

Be by his side. If he wants to talk then talk, if he wants to visit the grave go with him, if he wants to cry let him. Just hold him. You don&#039;t need to say anything. Your actions will speak louder then words.  

Answer 6

tell him that you will always be there for him and that if he needs to talk or needs someone to sit by him you&#039;ll be there .

don&#039;t let it be akward between you. if you feel nervous give him a hig if he is upset or talk about something else like something on the tv or something you should do like go to the movies . just let him mourn and make sure he knows you are there for him.

hope everything is ok. x*x

Answer 7

use this to make you both closer together, not farther apart. Make sure he&#039;ll look back on this as something  you were there for him.

so be there. and be with him as much as you can. let him cry if he needs to. he may seem to want to be alone, but try to stick with him as much as you can.

first say you&#039;re sorry. then say, im not just sorry that she died. im sorry that you&#039;ve been put through this.

:)

Answer 8

comfort him good luck

Answer 9

Nothing anything to radical ..........He knew this was going to happen so theres no sense on dwelling on it unless thats what he wants maybe he wants to you to hear him out thats all you can do do not comfort him to much but do not abandom him talk to him and wait untill he will say something about this matter be just near thats all

Answer 10

i know that this is an awkward situation to be in, but my best advice is to just let him know. &quot;Hey, honey i&#039;m sorry that this happened. I love you very much and i&#039;m here for you if you need me for anything&quot; Something along those lines.  Just let him know that you ARE there. Give him the door to open when he is ready to talk about it.  3 1/2 year is a long time so i take it you two are REALLY close.  When he is ready to break down YOU will be the one he goes to. But you have to open that door so he known it&#039;s okay to go in when he is ready. HOPE THIS HELPS GIRL!    

Answer 11

Try your best to comfort him and try to help him get through it.

Answer 12

Just be there for him. Let him know that he has you to share is memories and stories with.   Talking about her and sharing memories will ease the pain of losing her.   She is his angel now and no longer suffering. Find comfort in that.

Good luck

Answer 13

just have s*x with him=)

trust me

its free

fun

and helps with emotions!

Answer 14

The best thing you can do is just comfort him and be there for him. Listen to him. Maybe do something special for him like take him out for dinner or lunch to distract him a little. I&#039;m sure he saw it coming for a while, but it is still difficult to loose a loved one.  

Answer 15

Just be there to listen.  And if you personally have any nice stories about her, share with him

Answer 16

Hey!  I think u should just do fun stuff with him, u know, just to let him forget about it for a while!  Also, don&#039;t talk about it too much!

Answer 17

Play it cool=Don&#039;t be all drama. Just be there for him.

Answer 18

All you can do right now is be there for him like you never have been before. Try to comfort him as much as possible. And show concern for his well being, as well as the rest of his family.

Answer 19

Just express that you understand how he must be feeling.  Go with him to the services.  Let him talk about the good times with her all he wants.  Just be there for him.  

Answer 20

Just be there for him. There&#039;s nothing  much you can do but that.

Answer 21

wow say your sorry and a bunch of stuff to comfert him

Answer 22

Tell him you&#039;re there for him and if he needs anything at all, let you know.

Answer 23

u can&#039;t do anything just stay with him

Answer 24

Say nothing, just be with him, when he is sad, and let him know you are there for him. Ask him about how it was growing up with her, what made her specail to him.  In other words, get to know her, through him, cause she probabbly contributed to the kind of person he is today, from the sound of it.  Just be around, and wait for him to open up about her, and LISTEN.  

Answer 25

just be there for him. you don&#039;t have to say anything. if he comes to you to talk about it, then listen and hug him if it starts to get emotional  

Answer 26

the best thing you can do is just be there for him. Heprobablyy wont want to talk much and that&#039;s ok all people will deal with death differently. Just be there with him and for him. You dont have to say anything just as long as your there and tell him your really sorry and that you are sorry and if he needs anything you there for him and that you love him tho the easy and tough (dont be a liblary book and cheak out!) Best of luck!

Answer 27

Just be there to support him, that is what he needs.  I think just listening when he talks, helping the family out, those types of things are the most helpful.

Answer 28

hug him and stay close to him