My boyfriend and I broke up....I'm in SO much pain! But I don't feel like talking to my dad, is that wrong?

Question

My boyfriend broke up with me this morning. He says it's because we're moving too fast(we made love for the first time a few days ago)and that he wanted to see other people because we're young(I'm 15 1/2, he just turned 16 last week). So, I'm hurt and I'm really down.

When I told my dad that we broke up, he wasn't sensitive at ALL about it! He said "That's what you get for having s*x too young.". And I went to my room because I was mad at him. But later he came up and apologized and said he was sorry and that he felt bad. He said to talk to him if I want to.

But I don't want to, which is really weird because I talk to him about EVERYTHING, but this I feel like it's too akward to talk about. I don't have a mom(God took her home when I was two), but I do have an aunt that I'm close to and she's been my mother figure for the past 13 yrs.

Is it wrong I don't feel I can talk to my dad about this? Or is it normal?

Please help I'm REALLY confused!

Answer 1

try again you need your dad to guide you and communicate with you he is one of the most important ppl in your life and you need his advice let him know how you feel about going to him and you will open the lines of comunication

Answer 2

Some things you need a mother figure for and this is one of them. Talk to your aunt . Your dad will understand that you need some motherly advise and he would want you to talk to someone you are close to.

Answer 3

Wrong and right don't matter any longer.  It's a done deal.  If you had s*x with your former BF because he pressured you or because you felt like you would "lose" him otherwise, then you had s*x for the wrong reason.  You need to question yourself very closely and carefully on this matter.  Your BF didn't refuse to have s*x, did he?  But now that he's had s*x with you, he's ready to look for someone new.  That is the same c**p that boys have been playing on girls for 50 years or more.  You might want to have a conversation with your ex to let him know that he'd better keep his mouth shut about your shared intimacy because two can play that game.  You could just as easily spread the word that he tried but couldn't get it up.  Good Luck

Answer 4

It's normal. Talk to your aunt.

Go do something fun with your dad though, so that he knows you don't hate him. Maybe suggest going to a movie or something.

You're growing up, and he wants you to stay his little girl.

Answer 5

I'm sorry you broke up with your boyfriend. But remember that no one is ever wrong for the way they feel about something. Just find a compassionate friend to talk to. Obviously, your dad is  not sympathetic nor understanding towards your problem. Some people just have difficulty opening up to certain things.

Answer 6

I don't think there's anything wrong with not wanting to talk to him about it.  For starters, he's a guy, so it's almost like he's guilty by association, ya know?  Talk to your aunt about the breakup.  It feels really good to have someone to listen to you when you've been hurt.  You should also pig out on some ice cream while cranking up your music and dancing around or crying (or whatever works for you).  And get a new hair cut, get your nails done, buy a new outfit- something to pamper yourself.  The first time a person gets dumped sucks, even if the relationship wasn't all that great to begin with.  You deserve to wallow in it a little bit.  Back to the dad thing, it's okay to not want to talk with him about it now.  If after time you decide you'd like to air things out with him, he'll be there.  Your dad wasn't initially sensitive about it because he's a guy, and because his only daughter had s*x.  That's a hard pill to swallow (and quite frankly, it's not one he should have had to swallow- good for you about the purity ring).  

Answer 7

im sorry about your situation. i think your dad would understand that you are uncomfortable talking to him about it. a girl always needs an older woman to talk to and its great you have your aunt. and im very surprised you told your father you had s*x most teenagers wouldnt. but not to be rude i think that your boyfriend was only trying to get one thing and now that he got it its done. i'm sorry if that hurts you.