My boyfriend and My mom what should I do???

Question

There is this situation that I'm in you see my mom and my boyfriend are really close well that is because they were friends before I started dating him!!!!

If they talk sometimes I worry that they will bring me into the conversation and that is something that I don't like. I don't mind them talking just don't really want them to talk about me all that much!!! They have talked about me before and well I have asked them to not do so; if they talk I don't mind I do however mind if they talk about me.

Is it wrong for me to tell him and her that I don't like them talking about me? or should I just let them?

Its just weird talking to him after I have found out that in number of times I found text's from her to him. I'm also not saying that I think that they like each other or that she is trying to steal my boyfriend!!!

I know some of you may think that I was snooping but actually I just cam across them when I was trying to resend a text to my grandmother!!!

Answer 1

IDK

Answer 2

just tell them nicely that you dont like them talking about you

Answer 3

Try to include yourself in conversations instead of just sitting there with a scowl on your face.  They wouldn't talk ABOUT you if they were talking WITH you.  And remember what Bob Marley said...Don't Worry, Be Happy.

Answer 4

Well at least they don't hate each other.  Tell them how you feel.  Try to include yourself in conversations.

Answer 5

Just tell them both how you feel maby they can include you in their conversations

Answer 6

Tell them both that you are aware of their conversations concerning you, and that it is hurtful. Try to tell them this when they are both together.  Good luck.  There is also a slim possibility that they are also interested in "each other."

Answer 7

no u have every rightg to snoop to find out wat is going on just tlk 2 ure mom how it upsets u then if it keeps happening tlk to ure bf

Answer 8

That is really weird!

I would tell your mom you would feel better if she only talked to him when you are there...that is creepy they are like best friends! If it keeps up I would break up with your boyfriend..GOOD LUCK

Answer 9

I understand what you are saying, I would feel the same way, I would mention it to both of them and tell them how you feel!

Answer 10

i dont no

Answer 11

It's not wrong for you to tell them that you don't feel comfortable when they talk about you.  And if they do that again, keep telling them you're uncomfortable with it.  Keep making that point clear to them!

Answer 12

Hmm. I think it's a reasonable request that you ask your mom and your boyfriend not to discuss you.  It's nice that your mom and your boyfriend get along so well, but you deserve to expect a certain degree of privacy within your own family, and if your mom doesn't seem to respect that, then you need to gently make it clear to her that you need to be able to trust that what you say to her isn't going to get back to your boyfriend!   It's not a question of taking sides.  I can totally understand why you don't like to be talked about behind your back, even though it's probably only good stuff.  Still.  

Tell both of them, nicely, that talking about you is "off limits", and that you need to be able to trust them that they will respect that.  And define what is "off limits" -- I mean, your boyfriend might discuss you if he talks to your mom about what to get you for your birthday, for example, and that would be ok.  I think you mean that you don't want your relationship with your boyfriend dissected between the two of them -- that's perfectly reasonable.

Answer 13

u need to tell them u dont like them talking about you

Answer 14

I think it's kind of inappropriate that your mom is close friends with your boyfriend.

Answer 15

what your mums doing is unwholesome and wrong its not giving you and your boyfriend enough space as a couple and its a bit weird texting your daughters boyfriend, iwould NEVER dream of doing that to my kids who are all young adults. if this continues  just terminate this relationship it sounds really UNHEALTHY. if he was your mums pal previously then i suppose he's older than you and that'll make him a bit manipulative. get a young guy your own age , who likes the same stuff/music you do and have some fun.