My boyfriend and his friends get drunk all the time, will they ever grow out of it?

Question

My boyfriend will be 28 next month, his friends are all around the same age my problem is will he ever outgrow his need to drink every day? I have started to not go out with him and his friends because everything they do revolves around getting drunk especially on the weekends. We have been together for 2 years and he has gotten a lot better with the drinking. When he drinks especially when he is with his friends he does not care and says a lot of things that he thinks are funny but are embarrassing or hurtful, even when he is with my family he cant control himself. What should I do, is there a certain age when they start to grow out of this? It has begun not to be fun to go out to bars because he drinks too fast and gets drunk quickly.

Answer 1

Find someone better.  Someone with maturity, self restraint and self control.  He has none and you can't make him change.

Answer 2

Sweetheart, your boyfriend is an alcoholic.  So too, apparently, are his buddies.   I am not fooling.  These are all signs.   Look up the signs on the internet if you don't believe me.  I hold out no hope for him to stop until and unless he figures out that it is a problem, and joins Alcoholics Anonymous - but I doubt that he sees it as a problem, and he won't until it gets a whole lot worse.  So, unless you like the idea of seeing yourself with a drunk all the time, doing all the work at home, taking care of everything, and maybe losing your house because he has done something stupid while drunk, by all means, dump the guy and move on.  He may be in a huge state of denial, but you can't afford to be.    

Answer 3

Well you knew it when you got to gether with him. So why complain now. He's your b/f deal with it.

Answer 4

if i were you, i will not be with him for that long.i mean a girl needs respect from the man.

Answer 5

Will they grow out of getting drunk? I severely doubt it. When you drink too much, you get drunk. But maybe the results are less hurtfull after time...Will they grow out of WANTING to drink? It would be hard to do so. As you are probably aware of, a lot of people drink, in different amounts, depending on the occasion. You said he is turning 28? Well, try to think of it this way: Maybe he thinks that his early adulthood period (the fun time) is fleeting. He could be trying to find a nice, simple way to have fun, and he thinks this is it. If I were you, I would sit down and talk to him. Explain to him that when he drinks, he does hurtfull things, and it really pains you to see him this way. If you believe he is an alcoholic, which it sounds like, see if you can talk him into going to a local Alcoholics Anonymous, or something of the sort. Tell him you are here to support his health 100%, and while your add it, add the nasty side effects of heavy drinking: Bad breath, frail hair, bad fingernails, bad skin, brain disfunctions, and kidney failure. Tell him you really want him to get better, and see if he can have the same talk with his friends. Don't say you think his friends are a bad influence, because it could cause him to retalliate. See if you can find a different outlet for him, such as poker nights, playing pool, playing a sport, or even watching TV. (Hey, it's better than drinking constantly) And know that there are others that sympathize with you, like myself. My aunt was a heavy drinker until she found out she had breast cancer, in which time she stopped drinking and smoking. Sometimes people need a scare for them to care for their health, and maybe the aformentioned things will be enough fo your boyfriend. I wish you all the luck in the world.

♥,

     ♪Emily♪Maria♪

Answer 6

Can't he be ok without drinking? If i were in you,i would talk to him and try to make him better. IT's not fair to you. He's just 28 but what about when he will be 58? He could become dangerous! If he loves you, he can give up drinking.

Answer 7

If I were you, I would get out of there. People who like to drink sometimes get worse and than they get abusive and can't handle themselves. Just ask my dad.