My boyfriend can be really annoying, what do I do?

Question

I am 17, and he will turn 19 next month. We don't see each other often and he says it makes him sad, in fact he cries over it. He will be sad if I don't text him or don't answer his calls even though he KNOWS i can't talk on the phone a lot. He also ALWAYS talks in this baby voice, and when I tell him I don't like it he says "You hate me" and then he says he wants to die. I love him dearly, but I do not want to be in a relationship where he acts like he's 6 and says he wants to die and hates his life, etc. But I don't want to break up with him because I fear for what he is going to do to himself. I love him and I want to spend my life with him, I just want to break up with him when he acts like this all the time. He gets so hurt easily and I tell him it bothers me, and then he says he's going to die! Even if I don't always hold his hand he thinks I hate him! What do I do? He is not just my boyfriend but he is my best friend and I cannot go on like this if he does this. I am tired of him acting like a baby, tired of him making threats to kill himself, and tired of him saying I hate him. What do I do?? PLease help!

Answer 1

give him a nice bj and tell him who wears the pants (haha i made a funny bj wears the pants get it HAHA)

Answer 2

get a new one....he's playing you for a fool.

Answer 3

Hey ! Behind every guy there is a woman. It takes a woman to change a guy be it anyone in any case. Try to change him. You are the only one who can change him . Give him some time. Trust me. The females have the power to change a guy let it be a rugged hardcore bad guy or a very sensitive good guy. You have to try changing him . I know you can cos you are a girl. Pls keep me updated with your progress.

Answer 4

I had a boyfriend just like that and frankly here are your options:

-Dump him because it's only down from here.

OR

-Sit him down and talk to him seriously say:

"Ok this has been really bothering me and i just want you to listen.."

and say what you feel, Say "i absolutly hate it when you say you want to die", because it's like what are you spossed to say back to that? It's like dealing with a little kid.

SO good luck

Answer 5

It sounds as though he's crying out for attention. I know he's not a child or anything but it explains his reactions to everything and the way he is acting. Try giving him an extra special couple of days and treat him like royalty and see how it goes.

He probably just wants your affection.

Make sure he doesn't get overly clingy though as that may worsen the situation.

Good luck.

xx

Answer 6

You sound co-dependent and he sounds like ***. What makes you think you love him or he you? YOU BOTH NEED TO GET A LIFE OF YOUR OWN.

Answer 7

Hold his hands in yours, look him in the eyes, and tell him that it worries you! Act all sensative and even start crying a little bit! That might get his attention!

Answer 8

Your boyfriend is emotionally unbalanced, and very needy.  His threats of suicide are just a form of manipulation, a way to emotionally hijack the situation to his advantage.

HIs problems are not your fault.  He is an adult and old enough to take care of his own needs.  He cannot reasonably blame anyone else if he decides to hurt himself.  You are his girlfriend, not his therapist or savior.

Tell him that for your own mental and emotional well-being, you cannot be in a relationship with someone who uses emotional blackmail or someone who cannot take constructive criticism.  Encourage him to enroll in therapy to deal with his need for validation, and tell him the relationship is over for at least one year while he works on this.  Specify that you are both free to date other people and move on with your lives - if he chooses not to move on and not to change, then that is his decision and he must accept the natural consequences of his decision.