My boyfriend cheated 2yrs ago and now has a son by another woman do i stay or do i go?

Question

i have just got back in to a relationship with my ex boyfriend. hes 39yrs old and ikm 21. i first got with him when i was 16. but he cheated on me 2yrs ago and now hes got a 18mth old son. the mother of his child is no longer around and he has the child but he wants me to bring his son up as my own. but i feel as im just here to be a house wife i do everything for him. i have problems of my own and i cant sort them out cuz im sorting his problems out. the mother of his son is now taking him to court to get full accses of the child but he doesnt want that. he happy the way things are. that means me doing everything. im stuck here i dont no what to do? is it worth staying in the relationship or not? i love him with all my heart but is it best? please HELP!! x

Answer 1

Go go go!!!

Answer 2

you should go, without looking back.

This guy is nearly 20 years older than you, you were 16, still a child he should have left you well alone.  If I were your mother he would have been on charges from the police !

Get out now and stay away, and keep your fingers crossed that the child's mother gets her child back.

Another way to look at it is, he cheated on you once with this child's mother, he WILL do it again, probably when your sitting at home looking after his illegitimate child, surrounded by washing and cleaning up.  take hold of your life and go live it without him.

Answer 3

Kind of sounds like he needs you more than you need him, especially as having you around will help his custody case. If you've just started seeing him again then take it real slow. Don't live with him, and certainly don't take on the responsibility of being his child's "mother" this early on.  Think of it as a brand new relationship.  I think you will end up pretty unhappy if this continues as you describe.  Best of luck x

Answer 4

you are not sure which means doubts so get out......if you have doubts you know deep down it wont work.....

Answer 5

This guy doesn't sound right!!!  This guy who is 18 yrs older than you took your young years!!!  What man would take that from any young girl unless he was messed up.  I'm not putting you down at all...I'm sure you're a great girl.  It now sounds like he is trying to take away more of your life by raising his child that he should be raising himself!!!  You should only help out when it is your choice and don't do for this guy because all your doing is enabling him.  You should be enjoying life and figuring our what you're goals for the future are for yourself.  Good luck to you!!!

Answer 6

i would go he bhad s*x with another woman *** on leave or cheat on him bak.

to get bak on him

Answer 7

not sure I would ever be able to forgive my bf for cheating and having another child so well done for your strength. If you have managed to get past that though, you should stay. My bf has 3 previous children that I can not be part of and introducing me to them is difficult aswell as the mother is being awkward. I would give anything to be able to be part of not just my partners but my partners childrens lifes and everyday it upsets me because I cant.  

Answer 8

I would say heck no that is not okay. You were 16 and he was 35 when you first started dating? That is too far of an age difference. And he cheated on you, that sets a bad precedence and you shouldn't ahve to take care of a child that isn't yours, especially when you are so young and have your whole life ahead of you, hwere he is middle aged and trying to have you to solve his mistake. I say break up with him, get a guy your age.

Answer 9

Let him get all of his drama out the way with his ex.  She is the kid biological mom so she will have right and privileges of seeing her kid regardless of what your boyfriend wants.  So lets that run it course and when everything  clears  then decide if you want to  be in a relationship with him and help him raise a kid he had with someone else and you have to know that his ex will always be around since they have a kid which will keep their bond together with. So be prepared for this.