My boyfriend doesn't want to have s*x! Ever! What do I do?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and we love each other very much. Neither one of us can imagine life without the other. We do have a big age difference. He is 43 and I am 27. It makes no difference in our relationship. When we first got together he couldn't get enough of me. I couldn't even drive because he was all over me. Now I can never get him to have s*x. He takes what I give him but then I am just left feeling frustrated and sad. He does have a hard time keeping an erection and we do incorporate Viagra in from time to time, but if he had it his way we would never have s*x. I want it all the time, but I am lucky if I get s*x more than once a month. He says he is just lazy. What a horrible excuse! What can I do to get him back into it? Even when we do have s*x it doesn't feel like he is into it. I feel like he is bored with s*x altogether.

Answer 1

He dont want you lol.

Men can still get a woman preggo even in the elder stages of life even in their 80s

He just dont want to give you any that is all

Answer 2

u dont need this.. and trust me if this continues you will be miserable and eventually fall out of love. Also, maybe he has just lost interest in s*x with u .. not coz ure not attractive.. but maybe coz he feels old around you which may be a turn off for him.. maybe .. maybe I'm wrong. Thing is 43 is not old. Its not like hes 95 and so cant have s*x. Men at 43 have sufficient stamina for a good s*x life. Are u sure u can trust him ? You sure he isnt getting some elsewhere. Maybe he does love u .. and so wants to stay with u .. but maybe he is meeting his physical needs elsewhere. All in all .. not worth it. You are young and I'm sure very attractive... u can find happiness with someone else. So pls... get out of it while u can.

Answer 3

That is one of the down falls of such a big age difference. Find some one closer to your own age and desire level and don't have s*x until he commits himself to you in marriage.  

Answer 4

Have an affair, duh!

And 43 isn't that old, these people are making him sound like a geezer.  

Answer 5

go out on dates go for dinner or a movie just have a good time then later make your move  i think your just not asking the right way older men are not horny teenagers  

Answer 6

People on here telling you he is getting old that's a bunch of bull 43 is far from old. My husband at 43 couldn't keep his hand off me I'm talking 3 times a day every day and we had been married 23 years at the time. I think your boyfriend is just bored and needs something to snap him out of it. Let me tell you what my sister did with her boyfriend of 15 years he was like your boyfriend not interested in s*x what so ever. It was a Sunday morning he was reading the paper she came down stairs wearing a blond wig and a s*x night gown (she has mousy brown hair) she said something to him and the paper came down very slow from his face he looked at her and grabbed her on his lap they had s*x right there in the chair. She said he was doing it so hard and fast that her wig was bouncing up and down on her head. When he was done she said her wig was almost turned completely around and all messed up. He said to her you need to wear that wig more often. When she told me that story i was laughing so hard i could just picture them two going at it.

Get your self a wig it worked for my sister, anything different that's out of the ordinary will help get him excited what do you have to lose.

Answer 7

Maybe you can ask him what turns him on? Eg; kinky stuff in the bedroom?

Or maybe he's just tired from going to work, and he may not be getting enough exercise?

There are so many things.. Try sitting him down and talking to him. That might get you more answers than we could answer.

Answer 8

Kind of funny:  if a guy was in your position, he would be told to relax, respect your wishes, or at best, m********e.

When it come to women in your position, it is still the man who bears the brunt of responsibility because he does not put out enough!

Answer 9

I think hes at tht age in his life when everything doesnt work like it used to.

:( tht must suk!

Answer 10

This must be really tough on you.  It's natural that you want a decent amount of s*x because you are actually reaching your sexual prime which is around 30-35 for women.  You are human and we all have needs.  You sound like a great girl and I really admire that you want to fix this problem and help your guy rather than going out and getting it somewhere else - you are obviously a good person.  

In my experience, s*x is so much more of a mental thing, rather than physical.  I would try and sit him down and have a heart to heart with him and tell him why s*x is important to you.  Reassure him that you really enjoy your relationship and that you need to express this to him sexually too, not just in other ways.  He really needs to listen to you and consider what is important to you.  I wonder if there is something within him mentally/emotionally that is holding him back.  My hunch is that the 'lazy' reason is just an excuse.  Trust me, no man is so lazy that he doesn't want s*x... even the laziest man on earth will all of a sudden have some energy and motivation if it means he will get to have s*x... I really feel like there must be more to this than what he is telling you.  Maybe he feels scared of something?  Maybe he doesn't feel very good about himself?  Erections are a big thing (no pun intended) for men... if he is having trouble in this area, then he must feel so deflated... he must feel like he's less of a man, and everytime he tries to have s*x and it isn't what he wants him to be, it just reminds him of how inadequate he is... so maybe his answer is to avoid it altogether.  Of course he may never admit to this, but this is what it seems like to me.  

Have a loving and open talk together and see if you can dig a little deeper... remember this is a VERY tough topic for him, so be very loving and give him lots of reassurance.  

Good luck.

Answer 11

right on the bat get yourself a new partner. i am sorry for being radical/ you may not like it  but it is what it is. at 27 you are young, vibrant and full of energy. you have to realize with 16 years difference you cannot expect that person to keep up with you. you have no idea how mch he use to do before you were born, when you were born,after you were born till now. if i was you i would change gear, find someone in the approximately age as yourself onless u have a personal interest in that person. it's hard to take decision , the hardest one always the wisest.

The question u have to ask ur self is: how long can i put up with that sh..., do i have a future or i want a future where my kids doesn't have to worried about other unknown. in the next 16 years where will i be, my husband, kids and so forth.

ps: at your age u should think about a future not s*x. cause u had all the s*x when u where possiblely in ur  teen and in the early twenties.  

Answer 12

I don't think theres anything you can do to make him want to have s*x. Maybe he should see his GP.

I myself am a s*x freak. I can't get enough of it. My fiance' and i have been together for 20 months, he is 31 and i am 19. He doesn't want s*x as much as i do (although i think a week is the longest i've gone without) He says he doesn't want to have s*x all the time or i will get bored.  

Answer 13

Get over your daddy complex and find someone closer to your age.

Answer 14

he's had his feel of you, and now you are boring to him.   He is probably waiting for the next young chic to turn him on.

Answer 15

I hate to say it, but he has probably found/wants someone else, and is just waiting for you to break things off. Lust/infatuation can last for up to two years, after that the fuzzy feelings go away, and if there is not love,....no feeling remains, except a fondness.....which is just not the same.

Find someone better, someone who really loves you. And wants to be intimate with you forever.

Answer 16

he already had wild s*x in past, now he is grown up and into more other things than just s*x.  

Answer 17

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Answer 18

Well that is entirely up to you. If you can't live without s*x, then maybe it's time to move on. He's only 43 and should be wanting it all the time, just to satisfy you and get his rocks off. How about oral, is he into that. That way he could satisfy you three of four times every time he ate your p***y.

Answer 19

Here I am 47 and I'm always wanting s*x and my boyfriend is younger than me and he loves it too! he-he-he!

So believe me it's nothing to do with his age.

It's no excuse of being lazy I think he must be feeling down about himself and not being able to keep up with you.  

If he loves you and you love him talk to him.

If he doesn't want to have your TLC then move on with a man that doesn't have that problem,sorry my dear.

Good~Luck!!

Answer 20

Men have trouble as they age...

He may be satisfying himself with p**n???

You need a young guy - really.

Answer 21

call me!

Answer 22

I feel this mans' excuse for laziness is just that, an excuse. 43 is not old  and if he really cared about you enough he would be trying to please you in every way. I think your relationship has run its course and you need to move on and find a man with whom you can have an equal relationship with in every way, on an emotional level as well as sexual.  

Answer 23

Sounds like you need to put things out on the table and talk about things. You need to let him know you feel . s*x is not everything in a relationship but it plays a good part in it. And if you are feeling like this and he is aware of this sounds like you both need to do something about this situation , before your situation takes care of you. And you are in the arms or bed with someone who can keep you happy in EVERY WAY. Good Luck to you.  

Answer 24

If he is having trouble maintaining an erection, that is a medical red flag.  It can mean that the blood vessels are blocked and this can be a signal of a more serious issue.  He needs to be checked out by a doctor.  He is too young to be losing interest in s*x.  

I suspect that he is concerned about impotency and is avoiding s*x for that reason.  Try to get him to a doctor.  You could be saving his life!

Answer 25

It sounds like there are other issues in this relationship. You indicate he is your boyfriend and not husband, yet it sounds like you live together.  In any event, it may be a good thing you are not married, because it is going to make it easier to move on.

Does he smoke? if he does he needs to quit.

Is he over weight? if so he needs to lose the weight.

Is he out of shape? exercise has show to increase Limbo as much as the blue pill.

Have you changed the way you dress?

Have you gained a lot of weight?

Have you stopped wearing make-up?

Is he under a lot of pressure at work?

Is there financial problems?

Consider walking around the house without underwear, wearing low cut necklines, short skirts, and etc.

Answer 26

Have you ever wondered if he has some other girlfriend or if he is married. If he has some other girlfriend then he is getting what he wants with her and if he's married then he's giving it all to her or either he doesn't want his wife to find out. Or he can be g*y.

Answer 27

hes OLD!!!!!!

Answer 28

from what I understand, as people get older their s*x drive goes down. Maybe this is happening to him. Maybe just try and spice things up, ask him if he could, what he would do to you sexually. maybe try and work this into your s*x life. If he still seems uninterested you will have to decide if you can live like this. good luck.

Answer 29

He's getting old. His lazyness is actually kicking in. But then again i wouldn't see why if he's gettin it on with a 27 year old which is way younger than him. He probably lost his s*x drive! Keep trying the viagra, or maybe give him some p**n to tease him with.

Answer 30

I am thinking you better move on.  You haven't even gone through your prime yet. What are you going to do then?  You said that both of you can't imagine your lives with out each other?  He needs to step up to the plate and take care of your needs, don't you think? He would expect you to do the same.