My boyfriend drinks and smokes! wat do i do about it!!?

Question

he smokes weed, miles he also drinks. his little brother also drink and smokes. sometimes he goes to his friendz house and get high. will he ever stop. what should i do

his 19 .

Answer 1

You can't do anything...

You can't change people...

They have to want to change for themselves...

Just deal with it...

Or get a new boyfriend...

Answer 2

I got together with my boyfriend when he was 19, he drinks and smokes heavily then too. I was not too happy about everything, but i try my best not to get angry when he smoke, but instead encourage him, and tell him my concerns that he may get sick in the future, etc. He likes to drink heavily with his friends till their drunk and puke the whole day when he wakes up in the morning. I took care of him all the while he's at that. The important thing is, make him see how it is hurting you, and that you genuinely care.

So i'm still with my boyfriend now, and i'm happy to say while he is not completely over drinking and smoking, he is gradually cutting down. He smokes about 2 sticks a day, no weed, drink only at birthdays but not till he gets drunk.

Don't expect him to change suddenly, its like an addiction. Stick by him, support him. My boyfriend told me the main reason he is determined to change is because he loves me and that makes him stronger. So i guess its up to the person. One main thing is also that over the years my boyfriend matured alot.

your boyfriend is still young, give him some time. Maybe he'll realise the harm.

Good luck.

Answer 3

This is the time you ask yourself, "how much do you care about him?"  You have a couple of options:

1.  Let him be.

2.  Work with him, stick by him, and be there to pick him up.

3.  Find someone new.

If you want him to stop, tell him how it makes you feel when he smokes and gets drunk.  Depending on his reaction, you then decide what you will do next.  Personally, I would tell him to hit the curb if he didn't stop, and to call you when he gets his stuff together.

Answer 4

Honestly there isn't anything you CAN do.  You got with him knowing he did this stuff, so therefore it's your own fault.  I'm not here to be rude or to criticize.  But those who start those things, find it very difficult to stop.  Maybe therapy or try talking to him about it.