My boyfriend feels guilty and wants to break up. what should I do?

Question

My boyfriend is enlisted in the Navy and right before he left for basic(which was only a week ago) he said he thought we should breakup because he feels guilty leaving me behind alone and waiting. I really love him and dont want to breakup and he says he still really loves me and just wants to do this to make me happy. But if I'm happy with him and dont want to breakup do I tell him that, or should I just let us be "broken up" so he doesnt feel guilty, but dont stop loving him and stay faithful?

Answer 1

You know your relationship better than anyone on here does.  If you know in your heart that your relationship can grow stronger even with his absence then tell him you don't want to break up.  If you really feel you want to stay with him when he leaves then you need to talk to him about that and make a decision together, every relationship needs full communication from both sides, even if both sides don't agree.  

Answer 2

My hubby did a similar thing when we were dating when he left for basic for the army. I told him that I was in it for the long haul and he was just stuck with me!! Once he got to basic and had time to write me a letter with all of his information, he had changed his tune! I think guys think they will be better off at basic without having to "miss" home and family so they push everyone away, but in reality, that's when they need you the most. Hopefully he will write you a letter and you two can work all of this out!

Answer 3

It's your decision and tell him.

i love you, i stay with you and taht's my decision. If something happen, it's still my decision.

he have to know you love him no matter what.

Don't let the true love go.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Hey to break it to you, but he's being smart. It is highly likely that he is NOT going to be faithful to you while he's gone! He's going to be going all over the world and girls are going to be all over him. And he is a guy and the reality of the military world is have s*x now and live for the moment cuz tomorrow is no guarantee! And its just 10 times worse when their young.

Answer 6

Hi,

You can tell him your happy but I think that it is his way of telling you he wants it over. You can stay in touch but his life is about to change a lot.

I think he is trying to end it nicely - like he is doing a favor to you.  

Answer 7

Hi Kassi,

Tell him you don't want to break up and you want to stay in touch so he will always have someone back home in the real world to stay in contact with.  You will be a true friend for doing this...  Don't stop loving him... that would be hard to do anyway!  Especially if he loves you too!  Stay strong and be his best supporter!   You will be doing a good thing!

Good luck to you AND to your boyfriend!

Answer 8

No, if your happy, you should tell him you don't want to be with anybody else. And until that changes, if it ever changes, that should be your response. If he still loves you & has been faithful to you he'll respect your decision & won't force you to find somebody else.