My boyfriend fingered me and it kinda hurt???

Question

My boyfriend fingered me and it kinda hurt, more of an uncomfortable feeling. I've been fingered a couple times before and it's always given me that same feeling, but will it ever get better? And is there a chance I'll just never like it?

Answer 1

You boyfriend might not know what he is doing. Sorry to say. My ex fingered me and I never liked it. Never enjoyed it, got anything from it, I almost hated, and also wondered if I just didn't like it. That wasn't the case. My current boyfriend can do anything he likes, including fingering, and I love it. But even then I need to tell him when he is hurting. They aren't mind readers, you know, tell them what you are feeling.

Tell him to cut his fingernails. That can hurt, not to mention cause little cuts inside your v****a. It could also be you need to be opened up a little. Use some lubrication. You may be wet but it is sooooo much more fun when you really wet. Tell him to rub your clitoris, if he does it right it can get you in the mood at the snap of your fingers. Try some different positions. For a long time I tried the regular old missionary but I recently also found I like the doggy style and 69. Yes you can do positions with his fingers or his p***s. Know whether you like a steady or faster pase. If you like it faster it won't be as fun going slowly.

Also the best thing is to have him try and hit your G spot! Sit him in front of you with his palm facing up, insert his finger(s) inside you and tell him to make a "come hither" motion. His objective is to try to tap your belly button from the inside, in effect, hitting your G-spot. Don't let him get aggressive right away, however. Start off slowly and, judging by your preference, keep the same pace or increase speed.

Good Luck Darling.

Answer 2

It will get better. Partly because your body is still changing and partly because your boyfriend will actually know what he's doing eventually.

Answer 3

i don't really like it, i think it hurts because of fingernails and all, it is okay you don't have to like being fingered ask him to rub on your clitoris instead that is what i tell my fiance when he is being frisky

Answer 4

he did it too rough & too hard & there was not enough lubrication

Answer 5

Personally, being fingered before oral is extremely uncomfortable for me...but then again my boyfriend doesn't know the meaning of gentle.

If you havent tried it, have your guy go down on you for awhile before he fingers you...then see how you feel about it.

Answer 6

No, you might never like it but if you can touch yourself and enjoy it then I'd say chances are the guys just don't know what they're doing.

I had to grab my (experienced) boyfriend's hand a lot and show him what I wanted or at least tell him when he was being too rough or in the wrong spot (a guy can be a lot rougher touching his p***s than a girl can handle and sexual excitement can easily lead to rushed, uncomfortable groping).

Comunication is key.  Telling each other what feels good or what you like can really enhance the pleasure of s*x and if you don't want to speak, a moan can tell him when he's on the right track.  Don't cringe in silence if you don't like the way he's touching you.  Either tell him that you're not much for fingering or that you want him to do it differently.

Answer 7

Yeah, the fingernails can be an issue

Which is why I bite mine XD

Well, one thing is he might not even know how to do it. The way I used to do it, felt VERY odd, it was just in an out and just kind of bleh.

He's actually supposed to EXPLORE, if you dig me. |D

But there is a chance you just won't like it, and thats fine. Just tell him about it and brainstorm on what to do. C: