My boyfriend had an affair with a 21 yr. old he was 47 then, I feel hate every time something reminded of it.?

Question

My question is that is it normal to feel that way He said he just want to be honest that was why he told me his past relationships. But it didn't do good for me to learn that he had an affair with a very young woman who was even younger than his daughter. I want to give up him, but I cant. How can I get rid of this hate feeling towards my boyfriend. We are already living together but not married yet. We are already having our wedding plan next year.

Answer 1

Girl grow up.  You are lucky because your boyfriend is honest with you.  And why you be bother on that 21 years old And so?  Who cares.  Girl, you have to think he is living with you now and at the same time planning to marry you next year.  You know what don't ever feel insecure with her.  Try to do the best in you r relationship and I tell you never do anything that you feel insecure or jealous that may incur problem in your relationship.  He loves you that's why he is honest with you.  I had experienced with my ex before.  I asked him if he had a past relationship with younger girl I was so surprised  that he had a child to a 17 years old. And he is 59 years old. And he said he loves me.  But i keep on nagging him and until one day we had a fight that he was hurt. Now look at me I lost him.  And it is a regret for me.  Just relax and be happy of what he did.  You love him so love him for what he is no matter past he been through.  Good luck girl.

Answer 2

Was he going out with you when he cheated? If not try to look at the positive memories that you and he shared together and remember why you agreed to marry him because you love him and want to be with him but If you still feel like this I suggest a girls night out or a girls only Holiday but I bet you did stuff you aren't proud of and i bet he isn't proud of doing that and you got to give him credit he was brave enough to tell you he had a affair even if it meant losing you.

Good Luck and congrats on the wedding x

Answer 3

You didn't really make it clear if this affair with the younger woman occurred while he was in a relationship with you.

If it did then I can well understand your feelings of anger toward him. If it was before your time then I suggest that you might consider that he has a different attitude toward younger women now than he did back then.

If you can't resolve these strong feelings you have on this issue then I would say you would be justified in ending this relationship.