My boyfriend had these dreams and we r goin to do them in real life????

Question

im 13 hes 13. we have been goin out for 8 months Wednesday. hes comin over to my house for the first time. so we hav been talkin about our daydreams.. we have decided to make our dreams come true.. some parts of them are makin be wonder...... can u help me out. what should i do? where do u think this stuff could lead to????

like in the first one, in his words "i sat up and u grabbed me and we made out. you pushed me over and we were sorta in a weird position.

or the third one where we were in my room sitting on my bed "u jumped up and sat across my lap and we started to make out."

he is a really nice person who wouldnt do something he would regret... but these two are freakin me out a little bit... he usually asks b4 he does anything. i am confused rite now.... help ?

Answer 1

DONT DO ANYTHING SEXUAL.

Youre way too young, like me.

The farthest you should be going is making out, NOTHING else.

Theyre just dreams, and not all dreams come true, unfortunately.

Answer 2

He's a 13 year old boy.  That is pretty much synonymous  with horny.  Talking about making dreams come true is all well and good, just be sure you know where to draw the line!  The fact that you are concerned about it at all is a good start.  

If he is a nice person he won't push you to do anything you aren't comfortable with.  Don't feel bad or pressured into doing something you aren't ready for.  He won't like you any less, and if he did you shouldn't be with him anyway!

Answer 3

Ok i'm 13 aswell and Ii'm a guy so I know what guys think. Your boyfriend is going through a tough stage where he is 'growing up' and thoughts like the ones you mentoined come into his mind. You have to tell him straight that hes only 13 and hes too young for sexual intercourse. Well hope it works out for and take care.

Answer 4

hmm sounds more like his fantasies than dreams. i think he is just a horny 13 year old who's trying to get in your pants. you shouldn't do anything sexual with him because although he might not regret it, im sure you will since you are soooo young. just look out for yourself and you don't have to go out of your way to please him like that.

Answer 5

Sounds to me like he is trying to lead you to go further than making out you know? I know he is a great guy that wouldn't do something he regrets, but I also know that young male hormones change things. If I were you I would flat out tell him that you want to take things slow and not rush anything, I mean you guys are only 13. I hope that helps and good luck

Answer 6

You are my age and I dont even hav my first bf. i have nothing against dating...I think it's cute, but at your age, you are too young to start that kinda stuff (sexual relations) and dont try it i recommend until after u get married.

Answer 7

Just stay away from having sexual relations with anyone, your way to young and you don't need to get pregnant.

Answer 8

Honey, guys this age have these kind of dreams ALL the time.  You are NOT supposed to do anything about it.  In fact, it is rather disrespectful of him to even tell you about them.  

Unfortunately, these boys' dreams do not include things like:

the girl getting pregnant

her parent's catching them

getting or giving infections or worse

the girl's urinary tract being bruised/extremely painful & common for virgins with young, rowdy boys

the sad, sick feeling that comes for many girls, knowing they can never take back what they've just given

the fact that young boys are HORRIBLE lovers and the girls are left sad, confused, and with no special memories to hold on to

the fact that most young couples break up after s*x and the girl is left feeling like "ABC gum" (already been chewed)

the fact that you leave a part of you with anyone you have s*x with and over time, that means you get a whole lot emptier inside

and the fact that getting so physical TOTALLY complicates a relationship to the point it's not fun anymore, when you are only 13.

At your age, you should never be alone with a boy, hidden from view.  Stay in the den or the living room, or on the front porch... somewhere that someone could see you at any time.  If your parents are not home, do not allow him to come over.  Even grown women who want to make wise decisions about their lives use these ways to control situations when they are trying to keep things under control and do not want to complicate their lives.  So, it's not a babyish thing to do.  It is a mature thing to do.

You are feeling weird about this for a reason.  It is your conscience and the good sense God gave you showing you that this is not really best for you.  If you don't listen to this weird feeling, later, your "inner warning system" stops working, and you end up in all kinds of trouble.  Keep your "Weirdness Warning System" in good working order by paying attention to it and doing the right thing!