My boyfriend has an uncircumcised p***s, how can I get used to it?

Question

Well... I've had a wonderful boyfriend for a little over 3 months, and because he's such an awesome guy, he was willing to wait until I could gain his trust and we finally had s*x. I waited that "long" because I wanted to test him, not because I didn't find him attractive. He's very attractive to me.

The s*x was enjoyable but it was very hard for me to get through some of the stuff (oral s*x mostly). I have no problem with him or the size but he's uncut and I've never seen an uncut p***s in my life until now. It actually felt sort of gross for a few moments and I feel SO bad about that. He doesn't deserve it and it's so superficial to be upset over this but I don't want to dread oral s*x. I'm desperate enough to come here and ask how do I get used to it? Like, has anyone had a similar experience?

I'm not going to break up with him over this but I'm already afraid of the next time we have oral s*x, and that's SO wrong. Intercourse is great because I don't see the f******n and just feel it (and there's enough passion there!) but oral is difficult.

Any advice?

Answer 1

You just need to get over it, if there is anything gross on a p***s it is the urethra, and all men have that.  

Answer 2

I guess you just have to get over it...I'm sorry I don't have any advice as to how, just focus on how much you like him etc and just remember the f******n is a natural and normal part of the p***s. Is he clean? You can make him wash there before oral, it's common for people to do that. But I guess this is just a mental issue and you will have to remind yourself there is nothing wrong with him being uncut. My boyfriend is uncut too and I'm pleased, there's lots you can do with the f******n in oral, it's fun once you figure that out, and it is the normal way to be.

Harriet

Answer 3

Did you know that outside the US, 80% of guys worldwide are uncut? Most European, South American, Asian and Australian girls will rarely experience a circumcised p***s. Circumcision is only common in the US for cultural reasons, and has no real benefit.

I strongly urge you to ignore the previous answers saying never give him oral. An uncut p***s is NATURAL, so ruling out oral s*x forever is a stupid idea! I personally love it when my girlfriend pays particular attention to my f******n during foreplay. Your boyfriend is probably going to be more sensitive down there than your cut exes, because an uncut p***s is more 'pleasurable' than a cut one, so make the most of the extra f******n, sliding it up and down, playing with it with your hands or tongue, etc, thats what I like. Oh, and no teeth!

The bottom line is, just forget about your worries, and enjoy it. There shouldn't be any major differences and no special attention is required to an uncut p***s. Everything will be much more pleasurable for the guy and the f******n actually assists in s*x by acting as a rolling bearing. If ever in doubt, ASK HIM what he likes and let him take the lead!

Answer 4

I'm incredibly surprised at how shallow some of the answers on here are.  Oral s*x is definitely part of a healthy relationship.   Ask your boyfriend questions about his f******n like what feels best, hood up or down; how does he close it when not in use, what is the most sensitive area for him and does he like it played with or not.  Have him show you (that's the key) and as you become more accustomed to seeing what he does than it will be easier for you to 'handle' it.  If you are not used to the smell and taste of his exposed head have him shower before you begin.  This will give you the opportunity to adjust to this new experience.  (Guys go through this as they 'learn' to give oral on a woman.)  Good luck.  

Answer 5

Oh man, I had the same reaction the first time I saw a detailed picture of inner labia! It didn't take me long to realize, though, that all that skin is there for a reason, and that reason is pleasure.

The cure is to look at yourself in the mirror. Really sit down and analyze your own anatomy, and think about how a guy must feel about giving oral s*x the first time. Speaking as a frequent visitor to the Y, I can say I'm incredibly glad I got over my initial confusion and fear. Does you guy go down on you? How does he manage? Ask him...

Think back to your first experience with a guy. Were you eager? Curious? Playful? Put your innocent smile on, and pretend he's your first ever.  

Answer 6

how old is he? if he loves you and wants you to be happy, he'll get cut. i did it for "her" and me (mostly me). i was 20.

Answer 7

well in Italy (where I'm from) nobody is cut and to be honest with you to me there is not to much difference...you'll get used to it just like i got used the one with the cut.

Answer 8

I say just pull it down, it comes down...Its always gonna be there. So ur gonna have to accept it right?  

Answer 9

quit being superficial, how would you feel if he broke up with you because you had a clitoral hood (they are the same part) or your labia was too big, an uncircumcised p***s is natural, no scarring no suture line

Answer 10

What are you worried about?  This is the natural state of the p***s.  80% of the world is uncut.  There needs to be lubrication between the f******n and the glans (head) to provide lubrication as the f******n moves up and down and also so that the inner part doesn't dry out.

Whatever is under there is completely natural.  I'm assuming he doesn't let it build up and that he washes regularly - so I fail to see what your problem is.  Maybe you have just got it into your head that it is dirty or harmful - let me assure you - it isn't - if it were - your v****a would be  more "dirty" than his p***s anyway.  These are natural substances - so relax.

take a look at this site, you might find it interesting:

Top 10 Ways Circumcised s*x Harms Women:

http://www.sexasnatureintendedit.com/

Answer 11

Awh poor guy! Just don't do the oral.

Answer 12

the thing about more bacteria is suppose to be a myth- have had a s*x class. As far as getting used to it- im not sure- maybe if u do it enough times it will seem more "normal" but on the other side u should never have to do something u r uncomfortable with! Another thought would be to tell him that u love flavored condoms- put one on him and do it that way. but remember that an uncut p***s is becoming more normal- and u r actually pretty lucky because uncut men give better s*x. a cut man has to have s*x a certain way to get stimulation and that way doesnt give pleasure to women. an uncut man gives s*x the "normal" way which gives women more pleasure. So LUCKY u ;)

Answer 13

circumcised his  p***s by doctor.....simple

Answer 14

Don't do that until you get married.  (you asked for advice)

Answer 15

You could try taking a shower or a bath together with fun with soap. Or you can try whipped cream or chocolate on it.  Learn to have fun with it or he will find someone who does.  If he was promoted in his job and began making a wonderful salary to afford a house, would that change your opinion of him?

Answer 16

Wow. That is a h**l of a pickle. I am cut myself - and women do prefer that. However, can you do something other than oral that he likes as much or more? Does he like your butt?  

Answer 17

Oral... well don't do oral... that's my quick fix for ya... plus there's a lot of bacteria in an uncircumsised p***s so don't do it... Go ahead and have regular s*x... be honest with him. He'll have to understand.  

Answer 18

don;t not do oral, you will get used to it. all guys love oral and he wont be happy if you tell him you are disgusted by his p***s. just deal with it, its only a bit of extra skin.

Answer 19

Yeah, I'd have to agree, I would not be able to do the oral.  I would just have to tell him that I can't.  

Answer 20

You'll get used to it over time. It's just that you are used to the circumcised p***s. Curveddude is absolutely insane. No one in their right mind would request that a man get cut just because the woman doesn't like it. If it's that big a deal(which you said it wasn't) then the woman should just end the relationship because she really must not care for him to begin with. Don't worry about it so much. Like I said, you'll get used to it and eventually learn to like it. Good luck.