My boyfriend has me completely whipped!

Question

My boyfriend deff has me whipped! In the beginning i did not stand my ground and did everything and anything he wanted. We have been together for 2 years and i have been living with him since month 3. Any ideas on how to turn the tables. I don't want him to be under my control or anything but jeez, how can i get some control back? Thanx!

Answer 1

when he asks u to do something that u always automaticaly do..this time say no and he'll be shocked but it would be best if its something that u usually always do. lets say every night after dinner he asks u to massage his neck and u always do than tonight calmly say no thanks or something liike that and h**l be like wat, why and u say bc u dont want to or w.e. and h**l be like well u always do and get angry and u tell him hes not the boss of u which my sound very kindergartenish but just stand up for urself!! good luck !! wear the pants in the relationship!!!!

Answer 2

Wrong place for your question ...but HEY!    MOVE out!

Answer 3

Move out!

Answer 4

Just stand up to him.  Voice your thoughts and feelings.  Refuse to  do as he tells you to do if you don't want to.   It will be difficult at first, but the more you stand your ground the better.

Answer 5

First of all, don't listen to usamerica1776. You should stand your ground, you're not a door mat! It doesn't matter if you've been together 1 month or 10 years, if you want to be your own person just stand up for yourself! It's never too late to stand up for yourself.  

Answer 6

Hm.. why are you in the makeup section?

If you want your control back then take it back. It's really not difficult. Just stand your ground and be strong.

Answer 7

tell him how you feel. suggest sumthign else. if he doesnt listen then he needs u and u dotn need him!

Answer 8

whoa! i was like that once and it's not a good feeling when you realize it (at least it wasn't for me).

I started stepping back a little. I wasn't at his "beck and call" everytime he wanted me. we spent a lot of time together, so i started making time with my friends and found things that I could do alone. you said you didn't stand your ground, so you DEFINITELY need to start doing that. don't do things just because HE wants you to. he needs to make sacrifices for you as well. good luck sweetie!  

Answer 9

make him some coffee and give him ur body whenever he wants! he will respect you more

Answer 10

You love him? Tell him how you feel, and if he loves you, he'll understand. Lost interest? Get your stuff anfd tell him you don't answer to anyone but you.

Answer 11

let him know whos boss!! and stop doing everything he tells u to do