My boyfriend is Indian and wants me to wear a sari when we go out- I'm white, so is that inappropriate?

Question

My boyfriend is Indian and wants me to wear a sari when we go out- I'm white, so is that inappropriate?

Answer 1

Depends entirely on why he wants it.

If he's attempting to mold you into what he believes you "should be" then run, run far and fast.

If he wants to show off his obedient little white girl to his mates then run faster.

If he just likes the look then it's up to you whether or not you want to be his barbie doll.

Answer 2

I think it is inappropriate of him.  He should never tell you how to dress or live your life.   However if you are in his country then it would just be respectful to his culture and I would be opened minded.

Answer 3

What if your bf comes from a culture whose women does not wear anything and he ask you to do just that. Are you going to do that as well?

Why must you let people control you?

Answer 4

No, but don't do it because he told you to.

Answer 5

i suggest wearing it when u goto family things...but not day to day...

Answer 6

Nothing wrong with wearing a sari.  But it is unusual for a boyfriend to make that sort of suggestion.  If you choose not to, and he keeps bringing it up, that would be inappropriate.

Answer 7

o tht not inapprpriate for a white person, every one is equal but has diffrent features.

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Answer 8

I don't think it has anything to do with what your race is.  Do YOU want to wear a sari?

Answer 9

I think it sounds neat. BUT, you will get stares.

Answer 10

Your boyfriend needs to accept you and your culture just as you need to accept his.  If he makes you you wear the sari against your will, then you will grow to resent him.  Everyone needs to accept people as they are and NOT try to change them or either stay away from them.

Answer 11

If you're not Indian, why should you have to wear a sari? I think it's inappropriate because you're not of that persuasion.

That would be like a Catholic wearing a yarmulke just because someone told them to. It's rude.

Answer 12

Do what makes you feel comfortable. If you don't want to where one, then you shouldn't have to. If he puts you on a guilt trip then something is wrong with him.

If you want to where one, great. It will give you experience with other cultures

Answer 13

wear whatever you want  it's a goddamn democracy. the only opinion that counts is YOURS. if YOU think it's inappropriate don't wear it.

Answer 14

tell him to f 0ff

Answer 15

Always wear what you feel comfortable in.

Answer 16

I have never seen a white person in a sari so that would look weird to me.  He should be dating an Indian girl if he's so worried about what his date is wearing.

Answer 17

Nah, they're BEAUTIFUL.  Seize the opportunity.  Embrace his heritage, just don't forget your own.

Answer 18

I think anyone can wear a sari as long as it is wrapped properly.  My first question is:  why does he want you to wear the sari?  The second question is:  do you want to wear the sari?  The last question:  Is he trying to control you?

Answer 19

i think if you want to convert you spiritual/cultural beliefs to his, then yes do it. but if you do not plan on doing that, and he is ONLY a boyfriend, then no, i do not think it is appropriate. Shame on him for imposing his cultural traditions on you. Be who you are.

he sounds to me like he is a controlling person, and if he is already insisting on something like that, you should kick him to the curb!!

Answer 20

i dont knew it inappropriate or not.but i think if u love him,u should do this kind of thing for him,good luck