My boyfriend is OBSESSED with the yankees..

Question

and its getting to the point where its becoming violent. When the loose he will throw things and punch walls, he even talks about killing himself when they dont win. I know I will never understand his love for the yankees but it scares me. I've talked to him and we both decided it would be a good idea to take some sort of therapy for this, but where do we go to do that? can anybody help me please? I want to get help for my boyfriend but dont know where.

Answer 1

Tell him to become a Phils fan cause our team doesn't suck like the Yankees haha

Answer 2

you better dump him soon cause it's only a matter of time before the yankees don't make post season.  find a safe place and lay low for a bit.

Answer 3

It sounds like he has anger issues. Like he was never taught a productive way to deal with his anger, so he gets angry at the yankees andhe doesn't want to hurt anyone, so he hurts things. It sounds like an anger management class or an individual counselor would be able to help him.  

Answer 4

That's kinda crazy. But your question is in the wrong section.  

Answer 5

Well i can see why he might want to kill himself.

The stankees are the most stuck up overpaid losers in baseball.

GOOOOO TIGERS!!!

Answer 6

Wow.  Sounds absurd.

I hope he's safe and not hurting anyone...but it must've been an awfully tough weekend for him.

Go Halos.

Answer 7

yankees suck @$$

Answer 8

That's the yankee fan way

Answer 9

Now that's a die hard fan.

Answer 10

I think i have the remedy.  

I prescribe that you sit him down and have him watch the Yankees vs. Red Sox ALCS series from 2004 in its entirety over and over again.  It will help him I am sure.  and afterwards you will be free to get a new boyfriend.  And you have to make sure you keep an eye on him while he is on my medication, make sure he doesn't stop after game 3 because that would only hurt his situation.  

Answer 11

dump him for a cub fan

Answer 12

Wow! You my friend got a crazy boyfriend.  Here is my advice....

1. Take him to therapy or shrink

2. Convince him to stop going crazy.

3. Break up with him (over the phone) because in person he go crazy on u.

http://help.com

Answer 13

This is an obsession. Your BF takes out all of his frustrations and upsets and expresses it around this team. Most likely, he isn't happy with his life, his financial situation, his accomplishments, his living situation, his family life, etc. He then remembers when the Yankees would win when he was a younger, innocent boy and life seemed to be great. He wants them to win, so he can again experience the joy and satisfaction of those by-gone days.

When they lose, he is angry, not just at the team losing, but angry because of the way his life is not the way he wants it to be. He is living his life vicariously through the Yankees.

This is not unsual. Here is one way HE can help avoiding these outbursts. The moment the team is doing bad, and he feels his anger welling up, he needs to turn the channel. He needs to watch a movie, or comedy, etc. and not watch the game. He can switch back to check the score periodically. The moment it looks like the game is in the bag, he can turn back and watch the game. If it looks like they are going to lose, he can turn the game off, period, and later read about it in the papers.

Also, do NOT let him watch the Yankees when they play the L.A. Angels. Because most likely they will lose. The Angels are my team, and I know they have always given the Yankees a hard time. (Like today!)

Another thing he can do, is the moment he is getting mad, go outside and play catch or hit a few around. Then he'll remember that this is just a game, and supposed to be fun. Unless he bet money on it.

Another sure cure, is to bet a lot of money against the Yankees. Then if the Yankees win, he's happy. If the Yankees lose, and don't make the spread, then he'll have a consolation prize of a cash reward!

Going to see a therapist is good, but it will still be up to him to get control over his emotions. You can call your local social services department, or google "anger management new york" and see what pops up. See below for one such address.

Now the talk about suicide. If it is figuratively speaking I can get his being upset. If there is a hint of realism to this statement then your BF is mentally unbalanced and needs counseling. Suicide over a game being played by others being watched on a television set, with a team that will play another game next week, and next year, and next decade, is not the thinking of a sane person. If he talks more like this, then you have to be careful and the moment he attempts something get the authorities involved. The agencies cannot step in unless some action was taken.

Answer 14

get anger management, & tell him to realize he doesn't even play on the team, & it might be time to grow up!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 15

that just how we are

Answer 16

he is really die hard fan for the yanks just look in the address book for one

Answer 17

WOW, sounds like you should be dating a soxfan & your bf should get a grip. it's only a game

Answer 18

Yeah, definitely in need of some therapy and some perspective. That's way beyond normal and there's a lot of signs he's having some mental problems. I applaud your heart for trying to stay with him and get him some help. But ALWAYS be careful with people who are prone to violence like that.

The first step is to get him to a doctor. Make sure you go in with him so he doesn't try to downplay his reactions to the game. The doctor needs to know all the facts to start helping him.

Answer 19

well, i can understand the obsession with the yankees considering they are really good and freakin awesome! But anyway, about the violence, i have no idea where to go for that..

Answer 20

wow this seem serious i would say that since he likes them so much whenever he gets mad beforee he gets angry tell him to scream at the top of his lungs into a pillow outside or some where because the best thing for him to do is to berelievedd of his feelings

Answer 21

dump him

Answer 22

Wow...

I don't think that the baseball section is the right spot for something like that.

Answer 23

if he's obsessed with baseball, then it's no use to get him to stop. just get him interested in other things. skating is a good idea, or maybe something quiet.  

Answer 24

It sounds to me as if your boyfriend needs therapy for his anger issues. I don't think the problem is the Yankees themselves (I am a Red Sox fan, so I know people with similar issues!) He should talk to his doctor to ask for a referral to a mental health professional who can help him out. Good for you for speaking up and good for him for asking for help!

One more note: I teach fifth grade, and when my students say "We won" or "We lost", I ask how many of them actually played in that game.  It sort of gets the point across that we only watch; we don't play, don't get paid and don't live or die with out teams.

Answer 25

Look into a phone book for someone good. he knows he has a an issue so he going to get help.

Answer 26

yeah.  that's how Yankee fans are.  they think they are supposed to win 162 games a year... or atleast 125 like they did that one time... and they don't know how to handle losing.  

He needs to go to therapy yes... call yr local hospital and ask them for a mental health specialist.  

Sounds like he could use some anger management.

I dunno how you do it... most people can't stand Yankee fans, they are poor winners and poor losers too.  

Answer 27

I don't think the Yankees are his problem, his violent temper is. I wouldn't stay with someone like that if I was you. It could be taken out on you. The kid has MAJOR problems.