My boyfriend is depressed but refuses to get help?

Question

to make a long story short, my boyfriend's company eliminated his position at his job in April and he could not find another job so he demoted to a lower paying position at his work. In doing this he took a 12,000 a year cut in pay and it's hard for him to pay the bills and he's a single father trying to take care of a 5 year old.

After he first got notice in early April of this, he's never been the same person. He's usually unhappy, complains about everything, and the like.

I believe he needs to seek help--via counseling and possible medication. I say this because it's been several months and nothing is better for him and his depression and stress are negatively affecting both me and his daughter; he'll hide out and play on the computer rather than spending quality time with us, or he snaps at me. When I try to make quality time (ie, snuggling, kissing, etc) he acts indifferent and won't even look me in the eye.

He's so stubborned and he knows he's depressed, but has a "big problem" with taking meds or getting help, even though I told them how common those meds are (h**l I take them) and how he wouldn't have to take it his whole life, but maybe temporarily while he learns how to deal with his depression.

I'm tired of being snapped at, or feeling like we don't get quality time. How can I convince him to get help? I just want him to be the happy, friendly, open person he used to be and it's breaking my heart to see him like his. I mean we plan on getting married in the next year or so but I'm not sure how I could take being married to someone who is going to constantly be depressed and refuse to seek help. I don't deserve to be ignored.

Please help. I just want the best for him because he deserves it. How can I convince him to get help?

Answer 1

let some jehovah witness talk to him, i think they will help alot, they knock on your doors in the morning so i dont think its hard to find them, they helped me alot, they also are one of the only religions that actually do what the bible says.  

Answer 2

It might be difficult, but not impossible. He's taken a big blow to his self-esteem. He might view seeing a professional as a defeat or something.He has a lot on his mind and he is avoiding the problem by planting himself in front of the computer.

   I hope you are a tactful person. Try gently reminding him that you miss your "quality time." DON'T nag him. Do your best to be encouraging and try to remind him of what he was like before he lost his good job.

   Good luck.