My boyfriend is in a wedding should I go to it?

Question

I am not really good friends with the people getting married. I just don't think I will get to see my boyfriend much at all so i will be alone.

Answer 1

Well do you know some other people that are going?  If not, then I wouldn't go especially since the bride and groom are not good friends of yours.  I was invited to my fiance's cousin's wedding who I had never met.  I decided not to go and I was so glad I didn't.  My fiance (boyfriend of only a few months at the time) ended up helping with the reception since his family catered it.  I would have been terribly bored or working my butt off for people I didn't even know!

Answer 2

Were you invited?

Answer 3

A wedding is not a dating event.  I personally wouldn't go unless your boyfriend has already told the bride that both of you are attending.  Many people do not send invitations that say Invitee and Guest, btw.  Are you sure you are even invited?  For instance, with my guest list, none of the single folks get to bring a guest. Exceptions for my cousins who have been in long term live-in arrangements (I actually know their significant others).

Answer 4

You first should look at his invitation;-{ does it say "& guest"?

Otherwise, you are not included.

Answer 5

As the others stated you should only think about going if he is invited with a guest.

The other things to think about is how serious you guys are. If you just started dating recently then it might not be the time to include yourself. You will save yourself from feeling uncomfortable. If you have been together a long time, people might think it is rude that you don't attend.

You need to discuss this with him and see what he says. He might not want to have to worry about you being alone when he is supposed to be apart of someone else's big day. A previous poster said he should put you first and I don't agree. This day should be about the couple. If he can't be commited to being there for them, then he shouldn't be a part of thier wedding.

Answer 6

if you are invited then you should go if you want to.at most wedding now a days though i see alot of people having a bridal party table but then having there significant other sit with them so hopefully this is the case and you can sit with him and eat and dance. if you go to the reception the only time you would be alone is if he is sitting with the bridal party.pictures are usually done before that.you might have to drive to the venue alone cause the limo takes him but then you guys will go home together.

if your bf asked you to go then its cause he wants you there so just suck it up and go.part of being in a relationship is compromise.

Answer 7

Well thats something u need to talk to you boyfriend about, Maybe even suggest to invite another couple and youd still have someone to be with, but in all honesty your boyfriend should focus on you regardless of the situation, the ceremony is normally his big thing the actual reception he wont be needed much and he can stuff spend time with you. Talk to him though tell him how you feel and if he can assure you he'll make time for you during the event and not leave you behind then go!!!

Answer 8

You might be bored. My fiance was part of a wedding party and we had to sit apart. I was sitting with a group of people that I really didn't know. I was kinda stuck hanging on my own just watching everyone. (it didn't help that I was the designated driver and therefore couldn't drink...lol) It was a big traditional Italian wedding and I found it kind of boring(which I found out a few weeks later that the bride thought the same thing. Her family had taken over the wedding and paid for the whole thing so it all went their way)

Anyway, I really wished I didn't go. BUT....the only reason I went was because he really wanted me to come along with him. If he asked me to do something like that again, it'd still do it.

So, if your boyfriend really wants you there I say go. Otherwise stay home and go hang out with friends. You'll probably be glad you did.

Answer 9

There's no reason you have to go. Ask you boyfriend if he would be offended if you didn't go.

Answer 10

you should go only if you are invited.

if you and your boyfriend aren't sure about whether or not you've been invited, he can always ask the bride and groom their opinion.

i loved being in my friends' weddings but i always felt bad for my husband who had to chill out on his own in the meantime.

Answer 11

Not if you don't to. Just let him know the reason why you don't want to go, I'm sure he'll understand.

Answer 12

i would go they are probably hoping you wont go and plus we will see him all the time at the wedding what could he possible be doing you only eat toast and dance and if you don't see him bring a friend who cares that your boyfriend

Answer 13

If you are invited, sure, go!

Answer 14

First of all, you should go only if you are invited. You wont get to see your boyfriend much during the cermony, photos and the first part of the reception, but after the dinner part and the special dances, the two of you can dance the night away. I'm sure your boyfriend would want you there to hang out with. Besides, these are probably special people in his life and if you are going to be together long term, then you wont want to make his close friends mad. Would the bride mind if you brought a friend with you to keep you company? Maybe you could ask, some brides would mind and some wouldn't. Is there anybody else you know that you could sit with?

Answer 15

Your call about whether you go or not, but yeah I agree with the others - talk to your bf about it.  See if he wants you there.  If so, then go for him (even if you don't get to see him much).

Answer 16

I think it's fine if you don't go, and may even be a relief to your bf, but neither would I not go if it was important to him that you be there.  He may want to introduce you.

Answer 17

Was your name on the invitation? If not, there is no question about whether you should go -- you're not invited. If you were invited, discuss with your boyfriend his role in the wedding. Will he be sitting at the head table? If so, maybe you should sit this one out. In response to "Jessica E," the first responder: You boyfriend's job that day is NOT to cater to you. He is there for his friend, the GROOM, who is getting married. It is HIS day. And to suggest that a guest invite more guests to keep them company is beyond rude, it's ABSURD!

Answer 18

Only if you are invited, and then you need to RSVP. If you are invited I would go, I am sure there will be a reception and if you don't go who will your boyfriend dance and hang out with.

Answer 19

First of all, have you been invited ?

If you have been then you need to RSVP.

It could be a nice evening or if you like, stay at home with a good movie.

Answer 20

Are they good friends of his? You may want to go since they may be important people in his life.

I went to a wedding my boyfriend was in since it was basically his best friends getting married. It was nice to meet them all, and I still got to see him even though he was part of the wedding party.

But it may have been different for me since I *kinda* knew some other people there and could sit with them. And it turned out he didn't have to spend as much time as he thought with the bride and groom, so we still hung out.

I would talk to him. If he wants you to go, I would personally go along with it, but ask if he knows someone who could socialize and hang out a little bit with you so you don't feel so awkward.

Good luck:)

Answer 21

well youd sit alone at the ceremony and you may or may not be seated with him at the reception too.  After all teh duties are done you can dance.  Its really up to you!

Answer 22

First you need to find out if you're invited. If your bf's invitation says "Bob and guest," then he is welcome to bring you. But if he is not asked to bring a guest, then you're off the hook.

If he gets to bring a guest, you should talk to him about how important it is for you to be there, reminding him that you will not know anyone well. If he really wants you to come, it would be nice to go and try to get to know people.