My boyfriend is in the army and been posted overseas,any ideas on how to make longdistance relationships work?

Question

We have been togeather two years and he will be away for seven months, it just seems like such a long time and I dont know what to expect or how to make it work, any ideas?

Answer 1

I have had family deployed mail often takes a longer time though it is getting better write to him everyday even if it is a short letter and includethingss about friends etc.. let him know you understand his mission and he may not be able to write to you as much but just think once the mail starts rolling in right he will be getting a letter from youever dayy and that matters send him little special things on occasion like favorite snacks uno cards etc..

Answer 2

Support him and be proud of him. Be faithful to him, and make sure you keep communications up to the top. Its really hard to do  but you guys have to have great trust with one another to make it work, and your gonna have to try really hard to make it through. As for what to expect, don't always expect daily phone calls, sometimes just doesn't happen. And don't expect him to always be in the best of moods when you call, they get really grumpy over there, under all that stress. And if he seems a little distant emotionally at times, don't freak out to much at first, just try to talk to him, and if he doesn't want to, never pry anything out of him.

Answer 3

It takes patience and sacrifice. It may take understanding on your part. My Love is near Kuwait and where he is right now they don't have internet or good phones. His job is to change that.  You will get lonely. You will want to contact him and may not be able to depending where he is.

But as of late I have found the beauty in him being away. Our connection is stronger than I thought and our absence has made our hearts grown fonder. We have more confidence in each other because he reaches out to me and I to him. Don't get me wrong I rather him be here but at first i was so miserable I thought I was going to lose my mind. Especially after our first period of silence. I am adapting and I will be here when he gets home as I promised him. I will be here as much as i can for him every day while he is gone as I promised. I am his strength and motivation and he is mine.

Write. Write. Write. Record mp3's. Cam together and im. He and I did that every day before his mission started when  he was on base.

Flexibility is a must. I am not sure what the situation is or where he is being deployed to. Just pray and be honest with him and yourself. I wish you the best.

Answer 4

This is a good site for international calls. Alot of military wives use it.

Answer 5

you know,my gf is having the same problem and there is only one solution to it. just stay faithful and i personally promise you everything will be fine. just be strong and faithful and theres no worries. it will be hard yes but anything is possible if you let be when it comes to relationships. im being shipped out in january to the Army so i know where both of you are coming from. so like i said before just stay strong and stay faithful and everything will be okay. if you have any more questions feel free to email me.

Eric.

Answer 6

ok lets look at this... you asked how do i make a long distance relationship work while he is deployed...? well maybe the fact you have been together for 2 years and he is away defending all of us for a job. 7 months is not that long anyway alot of us did 18 months or more. its not that long and if you are having to work and keeping your relationship strong for the short time he is gone. then he might want to ask you a question or two. but if you cheat on him while he is gone, that a whole new can of worms. i think that from this question and the way i took and from my own experiences with a wife who wasn't sure on how to make a long distance relationship work turned out. i can bet he'll be yelling at the phone in the MWR eventually... sorry just my opinion

Answer 7

Once you can - write to him every day. Tell him how much you love him and miss him. Stay faithful. Send care packages to keep him happy and motivated. There isn't much you can do except be there for him 100% and show him you support him, love him, miss him and are faithful to him.

Answer 8

lots of minutes

Answer 9

be good and faithful to him.

I write my husband everyday, it helps keep you connected. Also if you tell him what is going on at home, when he gets back he will not feel like a stranger. Believe me 7 months is not that long, if you count it in weeks it seems shorter. I will see my husband sometime between january and march, i'm hoping for january.

Just keep yourself busy, and buy cute stationary and sparkle stickers. He will be home before you know it.

One last thing..no news is good news!!!! Keep that in mind, sometimes it is the only thing that keeps you sane. Don't watch the news you will worry into a fit.

Good luck to you and him..thank you