My boyfriend is in the marines and is stationed across the country...

Question

I will be going out to see him in a month, but he was talking about wanting to get married when I go out there. I dont have a problem with that since we have previously discussed this, however, if we were to do this, we would be hiding this from everyone, including our parents. We are both 23 and have been dating for over 2 years. We have also talked about once his term is up, we would have an actual wedding back home. What should I do?

Answer 1

I am curious on why you would hide such a wonderful thing as marriage.  Obviously you both been dating and are well established as a couple.  The Marine Corps will have no problem with that since they are very strict if you go and elope; not necessary against the UCMJ, but they will consider it a big problem since the divorce rate is pretty high in the USMC.  I, for one know!!

Just don't hide it from the Marine Corps, they will charge him with Article 134, it happened in my days!

Answer 2

Hey go for it. you are obviously commited so get married, but i dont know if i would make a  permanent move since he is getting deployed.. but if you know he is the one  why wait?? best of luck  

Answer 3

Honestly, this would be better asked in the Singles and Dating or Marriage category.  The reason I say this isn't to be mean, but rather that in this forum, you are more likely to get help on the benefits as well as the negatives of getting married now.  However, I feel that you are asking more as a matter of the heart rather than as a practicality issue which I think people in those categories would be better suited to give you advice on.

If you want help as to what sorts of benefits you can get from the military by being married, then by all means we can help you there.

If you really want an opinion though, I'd say to follow your heart and it sounds like your heart says you want to, so go for it.

Answer 4

The military does not care if you elope.  No one asked me and my hubby how we got married, they only wanted to see the marriage license.  

I would at least tell your family you're getting married just the two of you and that you want to have a ceremony later.  OR he can take leave and you two could have a small ceremony now or even plan for one now and have one in either a few months or a year.  If you are wanting to marry right away you could plan for a Christmas wedding.

Answer 5

I think it is an absolutely great idea! Many, MANY military couples have small, court weddings, simply to tie the knot for "God forbid, just in case" reasons, then have the ceremony later.  I think it is important to discuss it with the family, no as asking their permission, but letting them know.  I say go for it, and thank your boyfriend for doing what so many are against!

Answer 6

why do you want to get married if you have to hide it? You should be able to share your joy with your family. If you have to hide it, theres more to the story that you'e not telling us- which in that case, we can't form a proper opinion.