My boyfriend is married and he never told me because he was afraid of losing me what can I do?

Question

I been with my boyfriend for 3 years and I always knew he had a secret until last week he confessed he had been married for more than 6 years. He said his marriage was a trap cause her wife threatened to take his son away. He tried to get the divorce but he said he didnt have any money. Now he wants to marry me but should I forgive all his lies how can I be with someone that hid something so important for more than 3 years!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

Okay, so if i understand. Your bf of 3 years is STILL married? Is he still living with his wife?

This sounds toxic. Get rid of him now, better late than never. There are alot of men out there that aren't married, that would love you and treat you well and honestly.  

Answer 2

asr eu in love with him .. do they live togahter ? cuz he was scared to lose you .. dont you see taht..i think you can work it out ...

Answer 3

LOL!

Unless she can prove him an unfit dad she cannot take his son away.He can file for divorce for less than 200$.He could have used his income tax returns to get one.He has been using you and will CONTINUE to do so.

If he couldn't get a divorce for the last 3 years, what makes you think he can now?

Dump him.He has a SONwho needs him and you need to tell exactly what a low life piece of trash he is to do that to his son, that maybe if he wasn't out s******g other womenb his wife might treat him better.He can tell his wife it is time for marriage counseling or divorce,her choice.He isn;t going to do that though.He is just going to continue using YOU for s*x.Then when you get pregnant or someone gets an STD then what?

Dump him yesterday hon.No future with a guy who lies and cheats on his wife.

Answer 4

"You're so important to me that I had to lie to you."

Are you buying that? Because I'm not.  

Answer 5

Yeah, he's full of sh*t!!  If you want to be in this dead end relationship and have no respect for yourself then stay.  You will always be nothing but the girl on the side.  I'm sure if he can hold that lie for 3 years then it wouldn't surprise me if you weren't the only girl he had on the side.

Answer 6

Forget it...he lied to you about a very important part of his life.  Your relationship is built on that lie.  Also look how he has treated his own family.  Do you really want a man like that?  How could you ever truly trust him?

Answer 7

I think that you should walk away now that you know the truth.  Wow 3 yrs and now he comes out with the truth, what's next?  Best of luck!!

Answer 8

forget him..hes married.

Answer 9

He was afraid of losing you? Well, you never had him in the first place. So whos worse off? Break up with him and look for an honest man.  

Answer 10

WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO BE WITH SOMEONE WHO MAKE SUP PATHETIC LIES LIKE SHE WILL TAKE MY SON AWAY THAT IS THE BIGGEST LIE I HAVE EVER HEARD. IF HE WAS SMART HE WOULDNT BE CHEATING ON HIS WIFE WITH YOU BECAUSE IF SHE DID FIND OUT AND GOT A DIVORCE THAT WOULDNT LOOK SO GOOD AS FOR THE REASON THEY BROKE UP WOULD IT??? HE SOUNDS LIKE A w***e AND HE'S MAKING YOU THE DUMB ONE. DONT FALL FOR IT. TELL HIM TO MAKE SOME MONEY TO GET A DIVORCE OR LEAVE HIM. THINK ABOUT IT IF YOU HAVE s*x WITH HIM YOUR PROBABLY SWAPPING BODILY FLUIDS WITH HER TOO IT GROSS- AND IF YOU ARE STUPID ENOUGH TO MARRY HIM....HOW DO YOU KNOW HE WONT DO THE SAME TO YOU, HE DOESNT HAVE ANY RESPECT, IT HE DID HE WOULD HAVE MORE RESPECT FOR HIS SON AND WAIT TILL THE DIVORCE IS FINAL TO START s******g AROUND.

HE'S A LOOOOOOOOOSER

Answer 11

If he could keep something like being married hidden for 3 years - what else is he hiding ???  I think I'd let him go and find someone who you can trust.  Oh, and who is single !!!

Answer 12

Unfortunately his lies continue here. He used his marriage and son to get to you when it fact he has and never will have ay intent to leave his family just a long as you play his game. He doesnt want to lose his side action so he will continue to lie to you so you stick around. This is quite normal for married men who are cheating so youre not the first to be duped by a married man. Move on past this idiot and forget him and be thankful youre not pregnant so things can always be worse. Move on

Answer 13

Forget him he had a secret life and did not tell u until recently. All that time he have been in bed with another woman all that time. And u don't really know the situation with his wife he could be lying. You should never settle for less.

Answer 14

Steer clear of him, he obviously thought he could get away with having an affair. An if he has had an affair with you whilst he was married then he more than likely to cheat on you if you stayed together. You should stay away from him. You want someone who repects you and doesn't keep secrets from you like he did.

Answer 15

He's full of shlt!

Dump him NOW. He has proven to be a liar and a cheat, why in the world would you want such a lowlife?

He's stringing you along, and you better believe his marriage is just fine. What a sleazy piece of c**p jerk.

Answer 16

Wow, you really need to ask?  Your marriage would start out based on lies, no matter WHAT reason he gave you.  You would be marrying a coward and you don't think he would do the same to you?  

Answer 17

That is a tough one. You start to wonder what else has he lied about ? What else is he keeping from you ? Tell him if he is serious about marrying you , that you need some time to process all of this and he needs to make steps (action speaks louder than words) to end his marriage.

Answer 18

and he's a liar..  

Answer 19

Ok.  I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years as well, and wouldntcha know it, he is married still as well.  BUT he never lied to me about it.  He has been pretty open about it although it has cause several arguments!  If he loves you, he would have told you.  I personally think that you should talk to him, and then leave.  IMHO