My boyfriend is not ready for a relationship. What should I do?

Question

My boyfriend and I broke up a wk ago after 4 months together. Basically he's not ready for a serious relationship after coming out of a relationship recently and says he's still finding his way. Im at the point where I want more. We get along great and he still wants me in his life, still to catch up and talk on the phone. I told him no. What I want to know is, given the fact that I still would love to be given the opportunity of having a relationship with him at some stage, should I give him space and cut off all communication or should I try to persist as his friend in the hope something will eventuate? I had hoped he would have been in touch by now. What do guys respond to best if they really like someone but its just bad timing? Distance or keeping in touch? We havent spoken since that day. I want him back but as more than just a friend.

Answer 1

u can't force him to be in a relationship with u, be his friend and find urself a new bf

Answer 2

As long as you want him as more than a friend, you will be hurt every time you hang out or share when he's feelings aren't mutual.

You have a better chance of him missing you and wanting more if you are out of his life.

Answer 3

SMASH HIM!!!!!!!

Answer 4

Dont waste your time if he really sees you past him he may come back if he knows he was missing out on something good....mama remember no freebies you have to be with this if you want to hit this

Answer 5

maybe just give him some time.

Answer 6

He's told you what he wants, or to be more accurate, what he doesn't want and thats to not be in a serious  relationship. If that is what YOU want then you need to look for it somewhere else who  will give it to you..

Answer 7

Just give him some space for now and then when he's ready for a relationship he may come back to you.

Answer 8

You go on with your life.  If you want to keep the door open, but do not want to be that fall back girl or the one he goes to to cry about other girls, you do not have daily or weekly calls with him even if it is freaking killing you.  That feeling passes.  Honestly, it does.  You tell him when he calls that you are happy to hear from him, give him 5 minutes to chat and then get off the phone.  Period.  No excuses to him just that you have to go and wish him well... goodbye.

If he wants to try to get back into good favor with you and have the pleasure of your company and companionship you have to make him work for it.  Meaning he has to call and ask for your time and tell you the purpose and the purpose has to be to tell you he is dearly wanting you to reconsider.  Listen, but not forever and tell him that you are dating someone else.  It is casual, but you like him.  You will think about it.  Think for a week.  He should call to find out what you thought.  Tell him you are willing to do a date.  Keep it short and no coming in after.  Continue with other competition until he gets the picture that you are not to be taken for granted.

That advice goes for men too - but in a different way.  It is more tricky for men.

Answer 9

hey! since the guy is not ready, why should you bother him... go and grab more frenz and you will forget the relationship you've had with him... come on ..its just 4 mths not 4 years....just be frenz dear or you will end up getting hurt even more!

Answer 10

Relationships are a two way street. You can't force him into it if he doesn't want to be in one.

Continue to drop him hints, but give him some time and space to think about it for a while.

If you really want to be daring...move on.  Sometimes, people don't realize how good they have it until it's gone ;)

Good luck!

Answer 11

just find someone new

Answer 12

If he's not ready he needs space, and distance doesn't always make the heart grow fonder, sometimes it just gives the heart the strength to heal, but give it lots of time, if it was meant to be, it will be when it is ready.

Answer 13

Tell him you will wait for him but not alone.

Answer 14

its alll up to you.

at this moment no one can predict what is going to happen.

if you want to wait around for him as friends then go ahead--does this mean you can date? if no then i wouldnt be sitting around for someone who may not come around for a year or even at all..

i would think about the pros and cons to this and decide--but you shouldnt be sitting around month after month and waiting for someone to decide if they are ready for an actual long term relationship and in the end may not want one after all so then you wasted how many months of waiting...

Answer 15

i think you should still be friends meanwhile but give him his space, and after things cool off let him know that you still have feelings for him and see what happens :]

Answer 16

ohhhh juss don wry try make him feel gud..!!

i hope u gettin watevr m sayin.

Answer 17

maybe his g*y find some1 else you cant force him. there's alot fish inn the sea.

Answer 18

if you are a teenager,

1. you dont have a steady job

2. you cant even support yourself

3. you dont know who you are

4. you are trying to find out who you are

5. you find out who you are and find out along the way who you want to be with and who you are looking for

6. your too young and dont know what you want.

7. puppy love is nice, but you should wait. he made the decision y not you.

if you like each other that much.... y not wait for each other.