My boyfriend is not showing affection and doesn't seem to care

Question

I'm going away to college on the 11th, and I'm going to be a couple hours away from my boyfriend, so we're only going to be seeing each other about once a week at most. This doesn't really seem to be upsetting my boyfriend at all. I feel like leading up to me leaving, we should be more affectionate and spending more time together, but he's acting like I'm not even leaving. Some nights he doesn't even call me, and it just doesn't feel like he's putting in an effort. He won't kiss me goodbye when he takes me home if he thinks someone might see, and he won't hold my hand.

We were playing Halo and he was kicking my ***, so I jokingly told him it was over and he like... freaked out, so I don't think he's not interested anymore. I'm just confused! what should I say to him? should I say anything?

Answer 1

He is trying to face a fact that has not yet occurred to you.  No matter what your relationship is going to change and sadly but most likely it is coming to an end.  By the way he reacted when you said it was over he is not unconcerned.  Men have difficulty showing emotions and they express affection in ways that are different from the romantic notions held tightly to by some young women.  Perhaps he is the shy type and many men do not want to put on any sort of public display of their emotions and they do not want to hold hands where others might see.

Relax and let this go.  Time will tell if this relatinship even can withstand the great changes that are coming into both of your lives.  It would be a very natural thing for this relationship to fade as a different stage of your lives begins.

Answer 2

I was once in the same area as you put here is what I found out after wards is that you can't take this as a sign that he doesn't care. Sometimes being to close destroys relationships really bad and then you never get back togethrer the point is dont take it the wrong way. If you push you will push him away. Don' make him say the "I love you" or "I miss you" let him come to you and eventally he will respect you tell him how you feel and leave it at that. Its one of things where you have to use judgement  

Answer 3

Emotional directions are equated w/men one way and women another.

Men try to avoid emotions especially when it will be something they will have to deal with later. Women deal with emotions NOW and expect men to do the same. My answer is yes talk to him , just don't be overbearing...just a simple talk to let out your feelings so the situation doesn't become more than what it is. I believe he doesn't want to face it....I DO believe he cares and loves you!!!