My boyfriend is older than me, and I don't know what to do. I love him.. ?

Question

I've been going out with this guy who is 20 years older than me. I am 23 and he is 43 I know it may come as a surprise to many of you, and please, if you are going to say that it's gross and all that just keep it to yourself. I don't need that c**p. Now, we've been going out for over a year now, and I swear that I have never been so compatible with anybody. I know that I am still very young, but I have been going out with guys since an early age, and I know that I have never felt this way about anybody else. I love him sooo much!. I know he feels the same too, and we are thinking about moving in together soon. The problem is this.. Lately ( for about a month). I have been thinking a lot about the age difference. Don't get me wrong, I really don't care about what other people think about it, but I have been thinking that If we were to move in together, and eventually marry, in the end, he'll be gone about 20 years before I am gone. I know it's kinda early in the game to be thinking about that, but I love him a lot and I also hate to be alone, so just the thought of that gives me the chills. So I think maybe it's not such a hot idea, so maybe I should leave him even though it hurts so much. But on the other hand I think, OK, so you are afraid of losing him in the end, and therefore you are going to lose him now instead of enjoying all the time you have now and might have with him in the future? Please Help me, I really really love him...

Answer 1

well, i think that you should stay friends because he might pass away along time before you do and you don't want to be lonely also you should try to find another guy,sweetie there are plenty of fish in the sea!

Answer 2

If you really really loved him I doubt you would even have to question this

Answer 3

I think the questions stems from thoughts like "Will I be able to enjoy all I wanted to enjoy with my companion forever and never missing him".

The answer just like you have pondered is "No".

why? ..  I think a relationship only completes when the partners feel they have explored to their hearts content. If u are not already come close to such a feeling, or think that might not happen it will most likely not happen.

What you are going to do about it is something that u have to decide. consider a 2nd relationship later... might not be desirable or possible

Live alone ... for u definitely not possible

Think about it.