My boyfriend is the best men at my friends wedding and tonight is the bachelor party and im little upset

Question

i dont care about the wanting to drink and having a girl dancer come im just upset about the fact he isnt coming home see i have been around him when he is drunk and he really doesnt know it but he because another person and does things that he wont remember in the morning do i have the right to be upset about that

Answer 1

Thats who he is. If you dont like it, you can leave him. Thats what happens to a lot of people when they drink too much, they cant remember what happened the next morning.  

Answer 2

Absolutely! You should be upset. As a matter of fact, I'd be pretty pissed! Since you know him, and you know that he drinks to the point where he doesn't remember anything...then you know that many things could happen and he won't remember! You need to have a conversation with him. If he's not coming home afterward, it's even worse because then he's "planning" on doing something naughty. He should respect your wishes (as his girlfriend) and come home, and maybe even call you during the bachelor party. If he doesn't respect those wishes, maybe you should really think about if you want to be with someone who doesn't respect you.

Answer 3

If you're that worried about his personality changing when he's drunk, he's definitely NOT the man you should be with.

This should be a red flag - a BIG red flag as to what your future with this man will be like.

If I were you I would rethink the entire relationship - he sounds like bad news.

Answer 4

Good luck girl, whatever was meant to happen will eventually happen.

Answer 5

he is who and what he is, either accept him the way he is, or get a new boyfriend....he's not gonna change.

Answer 6

ya that sucks but i don't think him not coming home would make a big difference if hes going to do something with someone because hes drunk he can just as much do it there as he can go somewhere else i know that's not what you wanted to hear but...if that's his personality when hes been drinking ....do you have a close mutual friend that's going to be with him that perhaps wont be drinking maybe a designated driver that can step in and make sure he doesn't do anything your boyfriend will regret in the morning if your real worried what about getting a hotel room where their staying don't harp on them well you didn't come into 2 in the morning how much did you drink ect just be there to bring him to the porcelain god if he needs it to check for lipstick stains stuff like that all i can say is hopefully even drunk he will be able to be a stand up kind of man and not do anything that will jeopardize your relationship good luck

Answer 7

He's young and this is the typical thing boys do at these kinds of things.  If he truly loves you, he won't do anything stupid... and if he does if hes a man he will tell you.... if hes a coward, he will surely act like he doesnt remember...

and most people that drink to a black out situation have a drinking problem... you have been fore-warned